WHY SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU ANYMORE

Hello Friends, Lion's and Lionesses...

September was my last time with you and it feels like forever...


Wanna share this with you for the benefit of my friend who keeps asking me why a woman who found you attractive yesterday tends to change her mind subsequently. 

You don't understand? okay let me narrate this..

 I was talking to a good friend a few nights ago,
and he told me an interesting story.

  He was walking home recently, when he walked by
a couple who were obviously in an emotional discussion.

  As it turned out, the woman was breaking up with
the man, and he was trying to understand why.

  The interchange went something like this:Her: "I'm not ATTRACTED to you anymore... I just don't
FEEL IT."

Him: "But I would do ANYTHING to make this work...
I'll do anything you want... just tell me what to
do."

Her: "That's the problem. You just don't get it."

....and that was all he heard.

  Have you ever been there?

  Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you,
or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold
on, the further she ran from you? And the more you
tried to be a "good guy" and please her, the more
distant she became?

  Well, me too. I've been there MORE than once in
my life.

  And it ALWAYS SUCKED.

  The worst part about it was NEVER UNDERSTANDING
WHAT THE HECK WAS GOING ON!

  I can remember being that guy I just told you the
story about... and asking "Why? Why are you confused?
What do I have to do to make this work?"

  I was willing to change, act different, or whatever.

  Little did I know at the time, but it was this EXACT
attitude that led to all the problems in the first
place.

  If you've read my posts for awhile now, you
probably know that women don't feel the emotion called
ATTRACTION for guys who act weak, needy, insecure
and "WUSS-LIKE".

  But unless you know this to begin with, then it's
ALL TOO EASY to become a "nice", overly-accommodating,
uninteresting, predictable, boring guy... and even
though it seems logical that a woman should love to
be treated like a queen at all times, you've probably
found out, just like I have, that this combination
usually leads to a woman either 1) Leaving you...
or 2) Becoming increasingly controlling, domineering,
and neurotic.

  So what's up with that? Why does this happen? And
more importantly, what can we do to avoid getting into
this horrible position of losing a woman's attention
because we're trying to be nice to her?

  Here's my take, after studying this stuff for about nine years now...

1. ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

  In other words, we humans don't CHOOSE who we feel
attracted to... and, JUST AS IMPORTANT, who we DON'T
feel attracted to.

  ATTRACTION happens for reasons all its own, and
these reasons have evolved inside of us over the last
several million years.

  While culture, peer pressure, and trends can shape
our natural drives slightly, the FUNDAMENTALS NEVER
CHANGE.


2. MEN ARE ATTRACTED MORE TO LOOKS, WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED
MORE TO PERSONALITY AND CHARACTER.

  Most men can't believe it, but to a woman your
looks just aren't that much important as u believe especially when it comes down to relationships not flings.

  Sure, if you don't take care of yourself, don't
bathe, and let two of your front teeth rot out you
might scare away the ladies.

  But for the most part, women will look past just
about ANY physical issue if she feels that all-important
emotion called ATTRACTION.

  And ATTRACTION is created by your PERSONALITY.

  For women, ATTRACTION is triggered by male qualities
like: Dominance, Humor, Unpredictability, Adventure,
Strength, Sexual Awareness, Indifference, Etc.


3. WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

  'Nuff said.


4. WOMEN TEST MEN BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.

  When a woman begins to feel a romantic connection
with you, she faces an interesting problem...

  How can she tell for sure if your character and
personality are the way you're expressing them?

  As we all know, men and women BOTH show off and
exaggerate their "good sides" while downplaying and
hiding their negative traits at first. This is why
men suck in their guts, brag, and show off... and
why women wear makeup, do their hair, and shop all
day for their clothes.

  If you were a woman, and you needed to figure out
if a man was showing you his "true self", how would
you do it?

  What if you had to know FOR SURE?

  The only way is to TEST on an ongoing basis, and
to keep escalating the tests to be sure.

  Put all this together (with a bunch of other factors
that I don't have time to talk about) and you get
an interesting problem that women face...

  A woman responds to a man that stirs her emotions,
and causes her to want him so badly that she'll put
aside all logic and reason to be with him.

  But what if the man is just pretending? What if
he only SEEMS to be this confident, funny, manly-man
on the outside, but he's actually a push-over WUSS-BAG
that is insecure and makes up for it by acting like
a tough guy?

  Or worse yet, what if he's a WUSS all the time,
and she just happened to settle for him because he
was available and persistent... and she didn't have
anything better going on at the time... but now she
has other options?

  Well, these are the kinds of situations, that when
played out, lead to the story that I started with...
a man begging a woman to stay... pleading with her to
explain what he has to do to keep her.

  Of course, this is all WUSSY behavior, and it only
serves to put the final nail in the coffin, convincing
the object of your desire that you are ABSOLUTELY,
beyond the shadow of any doubt, a Wuss.

  So what's the answer?

  The answer is to NEVER BE THOUGHT OF AS A WUSSY
AGAIN!

  If you want to make your dating life a whole lot
better and easier, then stop and think about your
behavior... and resolve right now to stop acting like
a WUSS for the rest of your life.

  Being "nice" and "accommodating" and "understanding"
is great for friendships and social relationships,
but it's HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION.

  An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a
guy that she can push around. She doesn't want a guy
who does what she wants him to do. She doesn't want
a little boy that she can train and raise.

  An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.

  This doesn't make LOGICAL sense, I know. But it's
the truth. These submissive qualities will only work
in attracting a woman IF SHE LIKES DRESSING UP IN
LEATHER AND WHIPPING HER MAN... AND CHARGING $400.00
AN HOUR!

  And my guess is that this isn't the kind of woman
that you're looking for.

  I've explained some of the important qualities
that you need to cultivate in yourself if you want
to attract women... and keep them attracted.

Now am gonna get back to this annoying job...but i will always remain...

Your Friend...

Leonhart...

DAY5- PRIVACY OR SECRECY

 IS IT RIGHT TO CHECK YOUR PARTNERS
PHONE/MESSAGES.

Every week, I get asked some variation of the following question:
“I know I shouldn’t have, but I looked through my girlfriend’s cell phone. She’s talking to her ex. How do I confront her about it without looking like the bad guy?”…. AND… “He was always stepping away to answer calls and he changes his password all the time… he must be cheating…etc as the list goes on.


There are several reasons partners check each others messages.
1. Suspicion
2. Previous record of infidelity.
3. Insecurity e.g. feeling of inferiority
4. Previous experience with cheating partners.
5. Tired of Relationship and seeking escape.
6. Frequent correspondence with fictional contact by partner.
7. Frequent or unnecessary encryption (locking) of partner’s phone or device.
8. Over indulging in chats or calls and hiding content from partners gaze.
9. Stumbling over chats/messages in an attempt to use partners’ device.
10a, No reason at all, just plain curiosity. (Or could it be the relationship was so rosy and too good to be true… “ahh he’s gotta have some dirt on him”).
10b, He’s always finding faults with me and catching me in wrong positions….I gotta dig for something to hold him with.
And so on….



According to NICKIS LOVE CORNER (ADENIKE) 
You really don’t know a person until you have looked through their cellphone. Nowadays, a cell phone is more than just a device to make emergency phone calls with. A cellphone is a personal and PRIVATE device that stores a plethora of information. You will discover a world of new things about a person when you look through their cellphone if you have never done it before…

I had a friend who was in a happy relationship UNTIL she looked through her boo’s phone. She saw text conversations she never imagined existed and it caused her to end the relationship with her otherwise near perfect man.
In spite of knowing what you can find in a cellphone, many of us still refrain from looking through our partner’s cell phone. Why?

Two reasons:
1. You don’t want to know.
2. You trust your partner.

You don’t want to know
Seek and you shall find. If you are looking for something bad, that is what you will find. People choose not to look through their partner’s cellphone because they have no interest in finding something that may mess up the relationship. It’s not necessarily trust, it is more like avoidance. In the story I mentioned above, my friend learned her lesson early on and has made a lifelong decision never to look through a guy’s phone ever again. There is no way to build a cheat-proof relationship, so focus on the good things about the relationship instead of looking for the bad. Be happy with what you have and don’t worry about finding something wrong. What you don’t know won’t hurt you.
If your partner gives you a reason to doubt with unusual behavior’s, then its best that you confront him/her about it. If you are trying to find a reason to end the relationship that should be good reason enough to end a relationship, you don’t have to wait to find something unbearable.
You trust your partner
Trust is something that is earned by consistent behavior. A woman reflects the love a man gives her. Trust is reflected by a woman who is treated well by a virtuous man. A virtuous man is honest and has integrity. Ideally, a man shouldn’t give his woman the desire to have to look for evidence in his phone. A woman who trusts her man is a confident woman and a woman who feels secure in her position and value in the relationship. This is healthy.
If you DO decide to look through his phone:
Be prepared. Make sure you are ready for what you are going to find and for the reactions that will come with it:
Stress; stress causes sleepless nights, headaches and illnesses; Arguments; Fights, Disturbing thoughts that will haunt you forever….And for what- if you are going to make up with your partner anyway? UNLESS you are ready to make that tough decision to BREAKUP: end it all, let that person go, suffer a loss and start zero with someone new.
My advice…
Think thoroughly before you take action. Do not act out of impulse. Ask yourself a few questions that will assess your real motives for looking through someone’s phone: what are you really looking for and why? What will be the repercussions of your actions? If something bad is indeed happening, it will soon come to light all on its own. There is no need to worry or play detective, “For there is nothing hid that shall not be manifested.” Mathew 4:22
…. OKAY THAT’S ALL SHE SAID


NOW LET ME LOOK AT THIS IN DIFFERENT WAYS

NUMBER 1
Does trust exist if one of you are secretly checking up on the other via their phone, email, social networking sites or by doing a good old-fashioned rummage through the pockets?
The answer is: it depends on what’s happened to trigger it.
If you’re snooping (let’s not dress it up people, that’s exactly what spying on your partner’s personal life is) on a consistent and regular basis, your relationship is going well, your partner seems happy and their behavior hasn’t changed to alert suspicion, you have trust issues or don’t trust the person you’re with.
If you sense something has changed – they are acting out of character, ‘working late’ a little too often, taking more care with their appearance, suddenly taking their phone to the loo and guarding it fiercely, putting passwords on their laptop when previously they had none or any of the other telltale trouble signs of an affair AND you’ve confronted them about your suspicions and not got a direct answer – then I find some discreet snooping understandable.
In that scenario, you are checking up on a partner due to a real fear that something is happening to threaten your relationship. I think most of us will hold our hands up to admit to doing it under those circumstances at some point in our lives, even if we do trust our partners the other 95% of the time.
The problem is, even innocent things take on ominous overtones when you can’t ask for an explanation. What seems like outrageously flirty texts from a workmate, might just be ‘Jane’s’ way: she sends texts like that to everyone in the office, dramatically diluting the danger factor. But you don’t know that because you can’t ask.
Emails from an ex pouring their heart out also mean nothing. That’s their perspective on the relationship, not your partner’s. Most of us have exes we have soft spots for. Your partner’s kind reply that says ‘I admit I do think of you often’, could be nothing but them trying to console/comfort someone who was once dear to them, gently. But unless you admit you snooped, you end up plagued with fears that could be groundless.
The only way to truly curb suspicion is to sit your partner down and be honest about how you’re feeling. Tell them specifically why you are unsure of their feelings for you. If you can’t pin down the feeling, tell them it’s just a gut instinct. If they’re innocent and love you, they will leap to reassure you everything is fine. (If they sigh or roll their eyes, it could be they’ve done it once too often and it’s time to take yourself off to see a therapist to work through the root of your insecurity.) If, instead, they look uncomfortable, get defensive and don’t instantly envelope you in a huge hug, watch their face and body language carefully. Do their eyes slide away from yours? Do they move their hands out of the way or take a step backward? Very few people are able to lie to a loved one while touching them. Are they touching their face a lot or leaking anxiety by jiggling a foot or a leg? All these things are far better indicators of their feelings for you and more accurate relationship alarm bells.


NUMBER 2

It is not healthy to check your partner’s correspondence – unless, the two of you have agreed that it is ok and the same rule applies to you both.
All couples have different boundaries around privacy and hence if a couple agrees that open sharing of correspondence is what they want to do then clearly that’s fine. But for those who do not have that agreement in place, being checked up on could at best feel like an irritating invasion of personal space, and at worst, be perceived as controlling, disrespectful and abusive.
It’s important to recognize that there’s a difference between privacy and secrecy.  There are many reasons why we may prefer to keep some aspects of our lives private from our partner, for example for reasons of modesty, independence or respecting the confidentiality of others.  But if we insist on some things being kept secret, then the motivation is more often about protecting oneself from guilt. Guilt that is most often caused by knowing that a partner would be hurt if the secret were found out.
Trust is the bedrock of any relationship and trust is built on transparency, honesty and open communication. This means that couples should talk about their needs for privacy and also agree what kinds of communications with others are ok, and not ok, within their relationship.  When boundaries are negotiated and agreed, there should be no reason to ‘check up’ on each other.  One exception to this might be when there has already been a significant breach of trust such as an infidelity, but even in these cases, spot checks should be done within an open and mutual spirit of accountability and reassurance, rather than suspicion and control.

In a technology-filled world, the temptation to read your man's Facebook messages or snoop through his texts and call records is overwhelming. But are you in the right to do so?

When Jane logged onto her husband's email, she was hoping for the best right?  Instead, she was met with a rude awakening: clear cut evidence of her husband's affair scattered throughout his emails. Love notes, song lyrics, photos of the two of them together, but that wasn't all. The worst was a pro/con list, written by her husband, on whether or not he should leave her. "It was the worst thing I have ever seen with my eyes," Jane said.
She's not alone: according to a 2011 study, 41-percent of women have snooped through their man's phone or emails. Modern technology offers a whole new variety of ways to spy on your partner. Looking through drawers and checking for lipstick on the collar is a thing of the past. According to a January 2013 poll by the Daily Mail, going through your partner's cell phone is now the top reason why cheating and affairs are exposed.

Why do we snoop? When Olivia’s boyfriend left his cell phone at her house, the temptation was too much to resist. "Of course what girl would not wanna look at everything that was in there?" she told me. Of course, giving into temptation can have some drastic consequences. When Prince was reading through his phone one night while they were in bed, she saw that he had been texting quite a few other girls, which led her to end the relationship. All this sneaking around raises a big question: Is it wrong to read your man's texts or emails if you end up learning he's been hiding things from you, or does snooping bring you down to his level?
Snooping may be a breach of trust, but it can also expose some untrustworthy behavior. The most common of this is evidence of cheating. Steamy emails, declarations of love, notifications from dating sites, and worse. Hannah found naked photos of other women when reading through her boyfriend's text messages.


Sometimes, you just have a sixth sense, a feeling that something is up. When your senses are tingling and a phone is ready for snatching, controlling the urge to snoop isn't easy. Such was the case for Tochi, who became wary of her boyfriend's relationship with his ex. After he refused to say her name and bitterly reminisce about their time together, she knew he wasn't quite over her yet. When he started mentioning her more-and-more, warning signs went off. Tochi’s snooping started innocently enough: looking through his Facebook to see if he had added her again. As her lurking continued, she discovered that they had been talking again and were planning on meeting up for coffee. She broke up with him soon after.
While her snooping was instrumental in the demise of her relationship, Tochi feels that snooping is sometimes necessary to find out the information you deserve. "I would snoop again only if I felt something was off," she said. "Otherwise, I understand boundaries. I'm not that interested in what my boyfriend talks about with his friends."
It's not always infidelity that women catch when they snoop around. Sometimes, you learn that they've been doing the same thing to you. When Cindy’s boyfriend gave her his password, she started reading his emails. The snooping didn't end there: When he borrowed her laptop and forgot to logout, she was able to search through his Facebook, as well. She discovered that he had subscribed to her check-ins in order to receive notifications about her whereabouts. Tochi stressed the fact that if you're going to snoop, you need to prepare yourself for what you may find. "I guess when you're looking for something, you'll find it," Tochi said.


When women find incriminating information through snooping, as you might expect, they oftentimes won't stand for it, and they act out. Such was the case for Vanessa. She had a bad feeling about the man she had been seeing. One night after he had fallen asleep, she grabbed his phone and quickly scrolled through his text messages. Turns out her intuition had been right-there were texts from three different women in his inbox.
Instead of confronting him, she quickly wrote back to the other women in his phone, telling them that he was ending it with them, and he was getting serious with another girl. She then proceeded to delete all of his contacts-her own number included. Maybe it's true what they say-hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
But perhaps the best way to satisfy your curiosity is simply to ask. Men with nothing to hide may be more willing to share the contents of their phone or email with you. "The easiest way to find out if your boyfriend is hiding something is to simply ask him if you can look through his phone and if he says no, well then there's your answer," Susan said.

I’ve lived through this scenario, I’ll start out by saying that we’re missing the point.
You looked in the cell phone for a reason, right? Perhaps your girlfriend suddenly added a password to her phone. Perhaps she’s been spending time with friends more often, or is being secretive and vague when you ask her questions. You know something’s off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. So what do you do?
You look for proof.
Your girlfriend goes to the bathroom, your eyes laser beam over to her cell phone, and before you know it, you’re scrolling through her text messages, looking for the reason you feel a knife twisting in your gut every time she says she’s going out with friends.
Well this same theme plays out in many different ways in relationships. Maybe you don’t check her phone, but you look through her emails instead. Maybe you feel sick to your stomach every time she goes out and you don’t know where she is. Maybe you’ve even gone as far as following her to places and spying on her.
The bottom line is that you don’t trust her. But more importantly, you don’t trust YOU! Something’s up and you can feel it in your gut.
It’s not about whether or not you found someone in your partner’s phone. It’s about trust. You must be able to trust your partner, and you must be able to trust yourself.
So for all of you considering checking your partner’s phone that haven’t yet pulled the trigger: THINK!!!
Stop trying to control the situation and start taking responsibility for what you can control.. YOU!! 

 Why do you need proof that cheating is occurring to acknowledge that you don’t feel safe in the relationship?
Speak up, confront the issue head on, and have a conversation about it.
For all of you that have already checked the cell phone, and that stumbled upon some suspicious text messages or phone calls, I gently say to you wake up.
I’m not saying to approach your partner with boxing gloves on, ready to fight. But I am saying that if it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck: It’s probably a duck.
If you’ve checked the phone and there’s nothing there, this is still your issue. What really prompted your concern? Was it an old wound? Self-worth issues? Fear?
Be honest. Go and have a real conversation about that twisting feeling in your gut. Figure out what’s really going on, and if that twisting feeling won’t go away do not ignore it.
Trust yourself to make the right decision. Trust your gut.

Have you ever checked your partner’s cell phone? What did you find? Share your story below.

And i'll talk to you again soon...

Your Friend , 
........Leonhart

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TRUTH LOST IN A BAG OF LIES....(RESPONSE TO WOMAN)

Am going to write this just to have fun... so if it stirs anger of hate or rash comments, then maybe i can call it an article of truth.. (because the truth is always bitter).

 

We often make mistakes of saying "if he loves me... he'll accept me the way I am".

They oft' forget that maybe, just maybe..the "way you are" isn't the right way you should be. Perhaps a little adjustment or change here and there. 

 

You wear make-up because you know u need to brush up on what is already available even though God in his infinite wisdom created you without them. 

Why do I say this... I will explain.

It is true, not all relationships are meant to be. Some are meant to lead to marriage. Some are for experience, some just to soothe a lonely spirit or for companionship, Some for Sex. Some last just a long distance and crash along the way when you discover you can do better... etc let's not broaden this comment more than it will be. 

Now, a man is a complex personality. But before I describe him I will say something about women. 

God created woman, we all accept that. as both helper and companion. And a woman depends on man for almost everything including her feelings. 

However some women who believe they are independent of men... still go ahead to date men and string them along only for material and sexual gratification and when I say "men" I mean the plural form i.e they don't keep one. These same women,when they find a man who they feel meets their qualifications... begin to grumble when they discover the man was "just passing by" if you know what I mean. 

Perhaps the man can see beyond their new pretend behavior of content. Why are they trying to change from their former slutty ways when they meet an Alpha Male....Why don't they stay there and wait for the man to "Love them as they are". 

Adjustments are necessary in new situations. 

A man is a polygamous entity in nature... hate it or love it. Finding and keeping one exclusively is not entirely impossible but requires a bit of factors working in your favor. 

1. Love (obviously the greatest but weak on it own)

2. Upbringing (way and manner he was trained )

3. Religion (how close to God he is)

4. Environment (Where he finds himself or how exposed he is).

5. Mindset/Conscience (How he sees women)

6. You (your effort as a woman).

Let me stop there for now but notice that YOU "the woman" are only number six (6) on the list. And not 1, 2 or 3. Not even top 5

When looking for  a serious relationship many things must be put in check. 

If you know you're a weakling that cannot stand the heat of competition or fight for their man as some women would do in a heartbeat then you should be ready for a long life of search, misery, heartbreak and perhaps when it all ends...settling with someone you would only manage or lie to yourself that u love because you're tired of the wait. (you'll end up banging that your neighbors hot husband that screams and yells at her like a dog still....yes because HE is THE MAN...and not your docile remote controlled toy you call husband). 

You meet a bunch of Nice guys that are ready to lie on the ground for you to step on them and pass but you want that "bad boy" that all the wizened up cats and vixens use to keep their libido's sated (satisfied) . Why? Because you want to be able to stand proud and say...that's my man.  

And you think you'll keep him by doing his laundry and fucking him. (just like a million other girls will also do if given the chance). And u believe when you do those things for him it makes you special... you even remind him how you do chores for him like it's a very special thing? (don't do it now...someone else will...gladly..with "Jara" like my people say).

Before you meet a man for a new relationship, remember that there are ticks and lice (old flames and stubborn habits). 

You.... that is his new ringworm... in your bid for exclusive attention you forget that he has to treat his other afflictions (which of course he won't admit to having).... While you are around ensure you use a triple action drug while washing his head so it will kill off both known and unknown.

 

What am I saying... don't assume you have come to stay and get comfortable. Remember that Old flames not well quenched can rekindle at the blow of air. And those old flames are not happy that someone is eating where they tilled and toiled. They would try to accommodate the knowledge of your existence but that don't mean they're not waiting (if not plotting) for u to fail as they did...and take advantage of the Window. (time b/w breakup and getting a new love).

Now I must correct some misconceptions in words women use: (Note that they are mostly true...but in this case... I am going to use my responses as those exceptions to every rule)

1.  If a man wants you nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't nothing can make him stay. 

(sounds good to those suffering or recovering from heartache/heartbreak... often used by psychologists to make one feel better.)

 

Even if a man truly loves you, there's a lot that can keep him away no matter how hard he fights. Incompatible lovers tend to go downstream not because the love failed to exist but because they both belong to different schools of thought or his one and your zero are not a perfect fit. Etc. Mail me if u wanna hear more.

2. "Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that is not meant to be" 

(this is another Mumbo -Jumbo... its just like saying "don't get attracted to jerks"... attraction is not a choice. you don't just DECIDE to be attracted to someone...its an innate involuntary action brought about by the amount of chemistry one is able to build over first to subsequent impressions. 

 

In that light... u don't just DECIDE to stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's NOT MEANT to be. How do you know at the onset it's not meant to be... how do you know during trying periods it's not meant to be.... So if you're a dry/ no-fun piece of complaining quick tempered ass and your attitude is threatening your relationship, you won't change? 

You'd conclude it's not meant to be and go on to another man to bore his life to death as well? 

Most times we need only look in the mirror to see the cause of our problems.

3. Slower is better...Never live your life for a man.

(Well that's good advice, and I agree with you. That's how it ought to be...However it's not my fault that The creator disagrees with the both of us ... Genesis 3:16 ... this one goes out to all the "independent women". continue telling yourself what makes you feel better.  It's okay to be independent of a man's finances and all that but that bond is spiritual and there's nothing you and I can say about it. The bible ended that case.  So...next. 

4. If you "feel" like he's stringing you along then he probably is .. don't stay because you think it will get better. (a. Very true... yes leave... b. Coward. you're too weak for competition. Run away anytime u feel threatened, afterall you're the lowest on the food chain abi?.)  put in some fight if u can and bail if u can't. There's another man waiting for you and another girl too for him. 

5. Avoid men who've got a bunch of kids from different women, he didn't marry them. Why would he treat you any better. 

(Well, I guess you can guess your answer from Annie Marcauly, baby mama turned wife to Innocent Idibia a.k.a 2face). 

Shebi he was stringing her along abi? Now she's enjoying her patience. Despite all his cheating and misbehavior. 

6. If a relationship ends because he's not treating you right then heck you cannot be friends. A friend won't mistreat a friend.  

( whatever, perhaps you'd rather be enemies with someone you still have love for... 

Remember it was once a relationship... unless you were never friends before... why would he be cruel to you. try to find out where you went wrong so at least you don't repeat it in your next relationship or you can remain a bitter person. your choice.

7. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 

(So would he when you don't tell him. Have your secrets but don't let them drown you). 

8. Don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are even if he has a better education and job. 

(in that case he doesn't need you to make him feel he's better than you... he is...at least for now... and he knows it. focus on your hustle and keep your pride in your pocket. No matter what you think of yourself...at some point in life someone must lord over you. you're always answerable to someone...don't hastily forget genesis 3:16

Bottom-line, Don't lose in your Angle... but if you do....don't be a sore loser. pick up your pieces...patch it up and learn...then proceed. 

Don't sit and tell yourself you're a victim of this world's Bad boy Syndrome and try to make others drown in your ideology. It's not their fault someone else beat you at your own game.

i wonder what you will do when you get to understand what Isiah 4:1 actually means...maybe then you will learn to stand and fight rather than nag and complain.

However, Guys... You can see what your Games are causing. Slow down. at least till Isiah 4:1 starts happening full time. lol

And i"ll talk to you again soon,
....... Your Friend

.....LEONHART

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Dear Bad Luck,...LETS BREAK UP

( TELL ME A LIE****
..ok...umm..I LOVE YOU)

A good break up may be defined as a break up in which both sides leave a relationship on good terms with each other. 

Just because it may be a good break up, doesn’t necessarily mean that both sides will be happy to actually do the “breaking up” part. Break ups are hard, usually for at least one or both parts involved in them, no matter if it is a good break up, or if it is a very bad break up. The realization that the love you might have shared with someone else, and the relationship that you had with them that could have lasted a longer amount of time if things were different, that realization makes things difficult for most people who experience them. A good break up allows for both parties to be at peace with their decision to split, and usually allows for a friendship to be present at some point in the near future after the split.

I’ll start by dedicating this on to all who have loved and lived and lied and tried and cried and got tired…

Why am I starting off with break up quotes anyway?

First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through thousands of years.

Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.

On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.

So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, and I’ve explained them as simply as possible. They not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.

Here they are:

The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:

1.    “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

—Alfred Lord Tennyson

Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.

It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

2.    “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”

—unknown

I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.

If you can let go, you will receive.

3.    “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”

—unknown

There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

4.    “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

—Golda Meir

Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

5.    “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”

—unknown

Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

6.    “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”

—unknown

Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

7.    “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”

—Tigress Luv

Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

8.    “I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”

—Lone Star

This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

9.    “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

—M. Kathleen Casey

This is a great one.

It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

10.                       “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”

—unknown

It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.

All virtues for overcoming a break up

The worst feeling and the unbearable pain in the world is of losing someone really special. If you are feeling lonely after a break up share your feelings with your friends here through your comments. Maybe you’ll feel good or lighter by doing this!

 These are some of mine and that of people world over ...it may speak your mind too.

No matter how hard I try, no matter how many relationships I get into…. it will never replace the one I just lost.

There is a severe pain I felt in my heart which you will never see b’coz it appears when you are not here.

A broken relationship would make you feel lonelier than when you were single.

Dear Bad Luck ….. Let’s break up.

A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself to fix it.

People say follow your heart…but which way do you go when your heart breaks into two?

It’s hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone when your heart still does.

Relationships are very simple. There are only two things that can happen. You either get married or your break up.

The pain of having a broken heart is not so much as to kill you, yet not so little as to let you live.

Wants to remind you that even though you cannot go back and make a brand new start, you can always start now and make a brand new ending.

Do you know why a previous relationship is called EX? It’s not the term for the past. EX is short for EXpired.

There comes a time when walking away is the best for everyone.

Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together.

It’s not just the goodbyes that hurts, it’s the flashbacks that follow..

It’s better to dream of something you may never have than to lose something you always dreamed of having.

Trusting you again is my decision, proving me wrong is your choice.

I’ll say goodbye this one last time. But know that I’m not really saying goodbye because in my heart I will still always love you. So goodbye...

Dear Insomnia. I think we really need to break-up…I don’t love you anymore…

 

I wish you weren’t in my dreams.

If you can’t save the relationship, at least save your pride.

Just give me time and I will get over you.

Was the heart was made to be broken?

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

There is always that person in life that you give several chances, it’s because you love them more than you hate them.

It’s not the breakup that hurts the most. It’s the post trauma that follows it. It is waking up and checking your cell for the sms that is not there

It’s so hard to look at you and think we were so close. We were best friends. And now. I’m nothing to you.

Out of all the people in the world i thought you were the the one to be there for me 4 ever and always. turns out i was just your last option wasn’t i

Sometimes when you love someone who isn’t right for you, no matter how much you love them and want them back you have to let them go….right?

They say you have to go on and forget the past, but for me it’s not like that cause every time i try to forget the memory hunts me again..

I will never learn to stop loving you I’m just learning how to live without you and move on without you there by my side.

I’m going to take the past and burn it up. Lift my head 

and carry on. Cause baby I’m stronger than you’ll ever know..

“Are you mad at me?” No, I`m perfectly happy you broke my heart..

I don’t miss you, I miss who I thought you were.

If your love does not work with that person, it just means that someone else loves you more….right?

If you can’t save the relationship, at least save your pride..

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

Just give me time and I’ll get over you.

One day you will want me and tell me sorry, but it’ll be too late.

You broke a promise and made me realize. It was all just a lie.

No more wasting time thinking about wasted time.

If someone really loves you, they wouldn’t let you slip away no matter how big the situation is.

I’ll hide my broken heart beneath a laughing face and though you’ll think I never cared, no one can take your place.

If you find a girl/guy who’s willing to go through hell just to keep your relationship going, you really shouldn’t take his/her love for granted.

Do you remember when you broke my heart well i found the girl/guy who knows how to fix it.

There are certain people who are not meant to fit in your life, no matter how much you want them to be.

I’m too bright to shine in your dull World..

What do you do when Something that was your Everything becomes a Nothing?.

No more wasting time thinking about wasted time.

The most painful memory I have is of when I walked away and you let me leave.

And then in my usual manner.... i will leave you with a gift pix at the end...one you should ponder upon thoroughly....lol

And i'll talk to you again soon...

Your Friend ....

Leonhart.

 

 

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