WHY SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU ANYMORE

Hello Friends, Lion's and Lionesses...

September was my last time with you and it feels like forever...


Wanna share this with you for the benefit of my friend who keeps asking me why a woman who found you attractive yesterday tends to change her mind subsequently. 

You don't understand? okay let me narrate this..

 I was talking to a good friend a few nights ago,
and he told me an interesting story.

  He was walking home recently, when he walked by
a couple who were obviously in an emotional discussion.

  As it turned out, the woman was breaking up with
the man, and he was trying to understand why.

  The interchange went something like this:Her: "I'm not ATTRACTED to you anymore... I just don't
FEEL IT."

Him: "But I would do ANYTHING to make this work...
I'll do anything you want... just tell me what to
do."

Her: "That's the problem. You just don't get it."

....and that was all he heard.

  Have you ever been there?

  Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you,
or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold
on, the further she ran from you? And the more you
tried to be a "good guy" and please her, the more
distant she became?

  Well, me too. I've been there MORE than once in
my life.

  And it ALWAYS SUCKED.

  The worst part about it was NEVER UNDERSTANDING
WHAT THE HECK WAS GOING ON!

  I can remember being that guy I just told you the
story about... and asking "Why? Why are you confused?
What do I have to do to make this work?"

  I was willing to change, act different, or whatever.

  Little did I know at the time, but it was this EXACT
attitude that led to all the problems in the first
place.

  If you've read my posts for awhile now, you
probably know that women don't feel the emotion called
ATTRACTION for guys who act weak, needy, insecure
and "WUSS-LIKE".

  But unless you know this to begin with, then it's
ALL TOO EASY to become a "nice", overly-accommodating,
uninteresting, predictable, boring guy... and even
though it seems logical that a woman should love to
be treated like a queen at all times, you've probably
found out, just like I have, that this combination
usually leads to a woman either 1) Leaving you...
or 2) Becoming increasingly controlling, domineering,
and neurotic.

  So what's up with that? Why does this happen? And
more importantly, what can we do to avoid getting into
this horrible position of losing a woman's attention
because we're trying to be nice to her?

  Here's my take, after studying this stuff for about nine years now...

1. ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

  In other words, we humans don't CHOOSE who we feel
attracted to... and, JUST AS IMPORTANT, who we DON'T
feel attracted to.

  ATTRACTION happens for reasons all its own, and
these reasons have evolved inside of us over the last
several million years.

  While culture, peer pressure, and trends can shape
our natural drives slightly, the FUNDAMENTALS NEVER
CHANGE.


2. MEN ARE ATTRACTED MORE TO LOOKS, WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED
MORE TO PERSONALITY AND CHARACTER.

  Most men can't believe it, but to a woman your
looks just aren't that much important as u believe especially when it comes down to relationships not flings.

  Sure, if you don't take care of yourself, don't
bathe, and let two of your front teeth rot out you
might scare away the ladies.

  But for the most part, women will look past just
about ANY physical issue if she feels that all-important
emotion called ATTRACTION.

  And ATTRACTION is created by your PERSONALITY.

  For women, ATTRACTION is triggered by male qualities
like: Dominance, Humor, Unpredictability, Adventure,
Strength, Sexual Awareness, Indifference, Etc.


3. WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

  'Nuff said.


4. WOMEN TEST MEN BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.

  When a woman begins to feel a romantic connection
with you, she faces an interesting problem...

  How can she tell for sure if your character and
personality are the way you're expressing them?

  As we all know, men and women BOTH show off and
exaggerate their "good sides" while downplaying and
hiding their negative traits at first. This is why
men suck in their guts, brag, and show off... and
why women wear makeup, do their hair, and shop all
day for their clothes.

  If you were a woman, and you needed to figure out
if a man was showing you his "true self", how would
you do it?

  What if you had to know FOR SURE?

  The only way is to TEST on an ongoing basis, and
to keep escalating the tests to be sure.

  Put all this together (with a bunch of other factors
that I don't have time to talk about) and you get
an interesting problem that women face...

  A woman responds to a man that stirs her emotions,
and causes her to want him so badly that she'll put
aside all logic and reason to be with him.

  But what if the man is just pretending? What if
he only SEEMS to be this confident, funny, manly-man
on the outside, but he's actually a push-over WUSS-BAG
that is insecure and makes up for it by acting like
a tough guy?

  Or worse yet, what if he's a WUSS all the time,
and she just happened to settle for him because he
was available and persistent... and she didn't have
anything better going on at the time... but now she
has other options?

  Well, these are the kinds of situations, that when
played out, lead to the story that I started with...
a man begging a woman to stay... pleading with her to
explain what he has to do to keep her.

  Of course, this is all WUSSY behavior, and it only
serves to put the final nail in the coffin, convincing
the object of your desire that you are ABSOLUTELY,
beyond the shadow of any doubt, a Wuss.

  So what's the answer?

  The answer is to NEVER BE THOUGHT OF AS A WUSSY
AGAIN!

  If you want to make your dating life a whole lot
better and easier, then stop and think about your
behavior... and resolve right now to stop acting like
a WUSS for the rest of your life.

  Being "nice" and "accommodating" and "understanding"
is great for friendships and social relationships,
but it's HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION.

  An interesting, attractive woman doesn't want a
guy that she can push around. She doesn't want a guy
who does what she wants him to do. She doesn't want
a little boy that she can train and raise.

  An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.

  This doesn't make LOGICAL sense, I know. But it's
the truth. These submissive qualities will only work
in attracting a woman IF SHE LIKES DRESSING UP IN
LEATHER AND WHIPPING HER MAN... AND CHARGING $400.00
AN HOUR!

  And my guess is that this isn't the kind of woman
that you're looking for.

  I've explained some of the important qualities
that you need to cultivate in yourself if you want
to attract women... and keep them attracted.

Now am gonna get back to this annoying job...but i will always remain...

Your Friend...

Leonhart...

THE TEASING GAME (SECRET:1 step forward, 2 steps back)

Hello Lion's and Lionesses. been battling with inspiration and time due to the recent loss i suffered but i have to leave you guys with this top secret I've known and used for years to get women to practically throw themselves at me. 

The secret Method of Taking a step forward and two steps backwards. You still don't get it ya? Lemme explain... Years ago a friend told me that if you slap someone with your bare

hand, you will feel as much pain as the person you slapped. And

it's true because the nerve receptors in your hand cannot tell the

difference if it's doing the slapping or if it's being slapped.

(This is probably why my mom preferred to beat me with a broom.)

Let me explain how this concept applies to the game.

I was at a gig with a girl I had been on one date with. We hadn't

had sex yet but I definitely wanted to. When I look back in my

dating history at the girls that really got me going, I noticed they

were all very good at teasing me. 

These girls knew how to restrain themselves and postpone some

pleasure now for more pleasure later. I understood this concept and

was beginning to use it on girls, but I would often give in early

because I was impatient and horny.

I didn't fully understand that the anticipation of intimacy is more

arousing than intimacy itself. Therefore anticipation of a kiss is

more arousing than the kiss itself. You can suck face with someone

for one hour, but after sometime you will get less from that kiss until your lips go numb and you don't feel like kissing anymore. In fact the best way to make a girl horny is to kiss her LESS and build

sexual tension that begs to be relieved in the bedroom.

My date and I already kissed before so there wasn't going to be any

major surprise , but what I would do is get very close to her lips and barely brush against them with mine without kissing her, and then pull back. Her head would follow me back, until she realized I wasn't going to kiss her. She would smile and I would smile, and we'd take a sip of our drink and i would watch her dance a little more.

That night I did the pull-back game for almost TWO HOURS without kissing her once, until I was ready to explode (remember that when you tease someone, you tease yourself by the same amount). But she had no idea that I was going through a harder time than she was because I did my best to put on a relaxed facade.

Let me sidetrack real quick and mention that this idea works with

emotions too. It's impossible not to feel the emotions you try to

make others feel. If you want a girl to fall in love with you, and

you seduce her successfully, you will also fall in love with her to a certain degree. Knowing this is incredible because it says that you can feel whatever emotion you try to create in others. 

For example if I want to feel passion, I just have to make someone

else feel it. If I want to feel love, I just have to make someone

else feel love. Unfortunately many people unknowingly use this for

negative emotions such as jealousy, fear, and anger.

Back to the story. I drove my date home and in my bedroom she gave me absolutely no resistance. She let me do whatever I wanted to do and for that night her body was mine in any way I desired.

After that incredible night, does it mean I can stop teasing her?

Of course not! No matter how far along the relationship we are,

both of us have to keep the sexual tension tight to keep the good

feelings going. The moment either of us stops putting in work to

induce maximal pleasure is the moment the relationship will become stale. Because anyone can just keep making out. But not many cannot.

The only way I learned how to tease a girl was by taking notes on

all the girls I was hooking up with. If what they did felt really good to me, I figured it would feel good to a girl as well. Most of what I learned about how to please women and satisfy them actually comes from girls.

Before you can get to the point where you are teasing and kissing a

girl, you need to know how to build attraction. I used to live in

my own personal hell because there would be a girl I liked but I

had no idea how to build attraction, no idea how to kiss her, and

no idea how to get her in bed. I had the desire, but I didn't have

the knowledge because my toolbox was completely empty. It took me years to learn that knowledge, and am more than happhy to share it with you my friends.. so stay tuned and always keep your game tight.

 Your friend, 

...Leonhart

@chrisxleonhart

SUCCESSFUL FIRST DATES- BANG SERIES

                                      READER DISCRETION: MEN ONLY + OPINIONATED TOPIC.

Friends and partners in crime *winks

Took a long break but now i am back and refreshed...

Guys always ask on how not to screw up a first date.... well.

Here are a few pointers. And thanks to Roosh, they may not all work for you. But like i said... they are pointers. If you're a reader of THE LION'S DEN I'd expect you've at least left the "wuss zone". So understanding this shouldn't be a task and putting them to good use would just be your pleasure.

Besides the actual act of sex, first dates are the most enjoyable

part of the game. It's where two people who barely know each other

are alone and isolated with a cloud of sexual tension lingering in

the air. Here's a few tips to turn that sexual tension into a

bang...

1. PICK THE RIGHT DAY.

 Don't try to have a first date on a weekend,

especially if you haven't kissed her yet. Weekend dates send the

wrong message that you value her too much and are ready to give a

"primetime" night to someone you just met. Instead stick to Monday

through Thursday for the first date. My favorite day for first

dates are Wednesdays, because what girl is busy on a Wednesday

night?

2. PICK THE RIGHT VENUE.

 Sure you can have great conversation by

taking girls out to dinner and ice cream dates, but if your goal is

to bang as fast as possible, you MUST do a drinks date. A great

time to schedule it is 9pm as that will cue her to eat beforehand,

saving you money.

Even if your drinks date is short of a blockbuster, it's very hard

not to get at least a make out if she's had three or more drinks in

her. In fact one way to know that she doesn't like you is if she

refuses to have more than one drink.

3.PREPARE! 

There is no way you can memorize enough routines for a

date that lasts two hours or more, and even if you could it would

be a stupid waste of energy. You're going to have to be REAL and

this is where I hope your vibe is fun and interesting. If not then

dates will be a challenge

I prepare for dates by having several fun routines ready, usually The Concentration Game (ask each other popular questions that have several answers, first who fails to answer or forgets or repeats an answer gets to drink a shot of vodka) This is fun and makes them drink....letting their guard down. however only really fun girls would try this on a first date. Other routines exist too. I also remind myself of touching moves and body language that prime her for the kiss.

Quick Tip (potheads will interpret this differently) : On your way to dates call up a couple friends and shoot the shit with them for a while. Since first dates are mostly a talking affair, you want that part of your brain to be ready. The worst thing you can do is lounge around at home all day in front of  your computer/phone and then go out on a date without having done any talking beforehand.

4. CHILL THE FUCK OUT.

It's natural to be nervous, especially with

the pressure of getting laid hanging over your head. But I

guarantee you she is more nervous than you are, simply because

she's a girl and is programmed to stress about everything. I can't

be the only person who knows girls who can't even go to a public

bathroom without a friend. 

The more you have your internal game straightened out and believe a girl should prove her value to you, the less you will be nervous

yourself. Think of her on a stage, twirling and spinning for your

pleasure. Whether this is reality or not doesn't matter... just

believe it.

5. SHOW UP LATE.

I'm always AT LEAST five minutes late, though I

try to hit ten minutes. You want to stir up some anxiety and fear

that she's being stood up so that she thinks about her insecurities

("Am I not pretty enough?") instead of yours. 

Even if you arrive early, mill around in the parking lot or

wherever for a while until you're late. The upper limit of lateness

to where the girl gets seriously pissed off is around fifteen

minutes, so try to keep it under that.

6. FOCUS ON ESCALATION.

  The best way to do this is by touching her

more and more as the date progresses. First you start with innocent

touches on her forearm or shoulder, then you graduate to touching

her hands after the half-hour mark, then you wrap your arm around

her waist. Next thing you know your heads are mere inches apart and the kiss is a foregone conclusion.

I believe that kissing results more because of touching than

because of interesting conversation. Think of it this way:

conversation makes her feel comfortable with you touching her, and....

touching makes her feel comfortable with you kissing her. Sometimes

you can kiss a girl with touching alone.

7. ALWAYS GO FOR THE BANG.

  Even if you don't think you will get the

bang on the same night, it's still prudent to go for it. The reason

is because it makes your job much easier for the second date. The farther you get on the first date, the less work you have to do on the second. 

Even if the first date goes well, you can't make the assumption

there will be a second. How about if her long lost ex-boyfriend

calls the next day? How about if her friends cock-block you? Then

you'll kick yourself in the ass that you didn't push it. Always go

for the bang and I'm confident you'll be surprised at how far you

get.

As you've probably noticed, most of the work in having a great

first date is done before you even show up. A little preparation

for them goes a long way, especially if you consider that it takes

quite a bit of work to meet a new girl and then get her out. Don't

blow it by not preparing yourself.

I learned these date tips by going on A LOT of dates. I'm sure I've

been on at least 100 first dates, in parks, bars, clubs,

bookstores, coffee shops, museums, malls, ice cream parlors,

pastries, and my bed-room, to name a few. 

I've tried it all, and through my experiences have figured out some

seemingly "obvious" things like how a common neighborhood bar is the best place to have a date as long as you can sit close to her.

There's the big things in-game like having the optimal attitude or

the best opening line, but the small things count too because they

quickly add up and make getting laid a lot easier. 

As always, i leave you with a funny picture to study and ponder upon.

Always your Manchi!
LEONHART...

HOW TO CHEAT AND NOT GET CAUGHT (MEN ONLY: READERS DISCRETION ADVISED).

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Obviously I don’t think cheating on a girlfriend is morally right, and I think it’s wrong to bang your girl without a condom and then creep without it too because you’re exposing her to diseases that could create an uncomfortable situation. However am gonna justify this post by saying this. Sometimes it’s best to know what to do in order not to lose something special when you can’t avoid the habit of creeping. When I want to cheat, I keep it locked down so tightly that it would take a lottery chance event to get me. The result is I get to fulfill my perverse needs while having something stable with a girl that I care for. That’s a win-win… unless she finds out. Here’s what to do to make sure that doesn’t happen:

1. Get started on the right foot.  

Do not get into that pattern where you must talk on the phone every day. To accomplish this you’ll have to state that you need your “space” early in the relationship that you don’t want it to get into that friendly boring zone where you’re talking about what time you woke up and what you had for lunch. She’ll honor your request but slip and send frequent text messages, which is fine—it’s easy to creep with another girl when all you got to do is send texts.

Also, if you want to actually have the ability to cheat, you need time not only to meet other girls but to take them out on dates. This means you want to get into no more than a twice-a-week date pattern with your girl, one date on the weekday and one on the weekend. Resist her efforts to see you more by saying again you need space and are the loner type that feels smothered easily.

2. Don’t give her access to your phone or computer.

  Remember This is how 90% of guys get caught cheating. They left their phone laying around, unlocked, and the girl finds incriminating text messages. It’s easy to brush off female numbers in your phone as old, but not a text message stamped yesterday where you confirmed fresh plans. Either delete the text messages manually before you see her or lock your keypad. Fail to do either and you will get busted eventually, guaranteed. Girls are savvy with cell phones and only need sixty seconds to sift through your messages or call history.

I’ve caught two girls messing around with my phone. Once I went to go wash my cock after sex and came back with my phone on the floor instead of the nightstand. The other time I spent the night at this half caste girl’s house and woke up in the morning with all my clothes gone. I walked around her place dazed and naked, wondering if I just got got, and found her sitting on the bathroom toilet going through all my shit.

For your computer, log off your email/facebook account when you know she’s coming over and then launch a different browser that you never use. While it would take time for her to sift through emails if you slip to the bathroom, girls go straight to the Sent folder to gather evidence. I’m certain that the female species plays dumb with gadgets and computers on purpose so that we leave our things laying around. Also lock down anything else that could get you in trouble like Skype (call history) and the secret dating apps you operate.

3. Don’t create a lasting impression with her friends. 

While some guys will argue that a way to win a girl is through her friends, I only find that to be the case with very young girls around college age—once she’s in her mid-20′s she doesn’t seek as much approval from her friends as before. If you’re meeting her friends for the first time then show up in an outfit you never wear and also a slightly different hair or beard configuration. You don’t need to wear a disguise but appear a little differently.

The reason is that her friends are spies and when you’re creeping they may spot you and then immediately rat you out. By looking different and not making an impression, the goal here is they don’t recognize you when you’re creeping. It also offers a layer of plausible deniability because you can say that you were experimenting with a new look when you met them and they probably confused you for someone else. Furiously deny it was you that they witnessed making out with another girl. You have no other choice, not matter how obvious it was you. Be like the United States government where photo or video evidence is required to pursue torture charges.

4. Do not mix dating venues. 

You want to have two parallel sets of venues to minimize cross contamination. If you take your girlfriend to the same bar as your creep girls, a bartender or regular may accidentally out you, or tip her off while you’re in the bathroom. We all know those don’t-date-him girls whose life mission it is to warn other women of cheating men. 

 

5. Don’t frequent her regular spots.  

This doesn’t need to be said but there is an exception: when one of her spots is a place you can get laid like a champ. Ajoihe!!!

In Enugu there is a club where, as of this writing, I have a 44% bang rate. This means every four times I went, I can bang or meet a Bangable girl. There’s no way I’m going to stop going to a place like that, but the success I had at this club could easily lead to my doom if I’ve truly decided to change.

6. Pick a friend who will be your go-to excuse for why you can’t hang out with her. 

 It’s best she has met the friend but I’ve invented guys as well. Be consistent and have him be the excuse whenever you didn’t want to hang with her. Examples:

“Friday I’m hanging out with Steve but how about Saturday?”

“Steve wants us to do fish night on Tuesday and to talk about some girl problems so let’s do movie night on Wednesday.”

“Sorry I didn’t answer I actually hung out with Steve in this lame club and didn’t hear the phone ring.”

Never allow her to join you with Steve (go out with u two), explaining that he doesn’t like being the third wheel. Add that you need guy time to do some male bonding, to talk trash and just be men.

What’s going to happen is she will develop a deep hatred for Steve because she thinks he’s keeping you away from her. That’s not a bad thing because Steve will be the channel for her hate. Feel free to milk this by making it seem like Steve has an influence over you since he’s “cool” and “fun.” Many of my friends in Nigeria (Enugu). would use me as their Steve and I can tell you that a dozen girls still hate my guts because of it.

7. Be mindful of when you blow your load. 

If your girl expects a gallon of cum on her face when you bang, and then this one time have a trickle or droplets because you just got done banging another girl, warning signs are going to go off in her head. Therefore regulate your horniness and sperm quantity. If you know it takes two days to recharge after a lengthy sex episode, then allow that much time before banging a mistress and then your girl. This is why when it comes to the weekend I always try to put my girl on Friday. If I bang another girl on Friday then I will show up in her bedroom on Saturday already sated and she will pick up on it.

8. Try to bang your mistresses at other places. 

You don’t want her to leave something behind like a bobby pin, scarf, hair strands, bangle, unique perfume scent, or blood. (Etc.). Also realize that a girl can tell the difference between a strand of her hair that is hers and one that is only 5% different. If you have to bang a mistress in your place then commit yourself to a CSI-like  clean sweep afterwards. Do not get lazy at this step. View your room from many different angles, get on your knees, and go sniffing around everywhere. Flush used condoms down the toilet and put the wrappers deep in the kitchen trash can. 

9. Construct and rehearse your alibi. 

Anticipate what questions your girl is going to ask and have simple, quick answers to them. For example you went out on a Thursday night after telling your girl you’d stay in. You met a girl in the club who bit the hell out of your neck in the heat of passion. You brought her home and she turned out to be a flooder (squirter/wet queen) and the sheets were soaked.  

Let’s focus on each aspect of the situation. If she asks why you didn’t answer the phone or call her back, say you wanted to stay in but Steve called and begged you to go out because he’s trying to get this girl that has an ugly friend. So for most of the night you had to talk to a fatty, but you wished you were with her instead. The club was so loud that you didn’t see the call and by the time you noticed it was too late to call back.

Second, the scratch on the back of your neck happened when you were in the kitchen. You left a cabinet door open and when you reached down to pick something up off the floor, you come back up right under it and caught your neck. Of course you will wear a collared shirt to cover it up and prevent her discovery, but if you never wear collared shirts around her then she will be even more suspicious if she catches the scratch. If you have a sister and can borrow her makeup this may also be a good play, or just go to the nearest department store’s cosmetic counter and pick up some foundation. I’m not joking.

Third, the sheets. In America you can do a wash and dry load quickly, but in countries like mine and in areas without a dryer it has to hang for quite a while. If she insists on coming in during the late afternoon before it dries, say how mad you are at the maid for lazying around and always washing on the wrong days.

You’ve closed the gaps. Otherwise it would be a very damaging situation. While subconsciously she will know something is going on and be moody and testy, consciously she will accept your airtight alibi and things can proceed as normal.

10. Don’t let guilt change your routine. 

After a successful creep you’ll probably feel guilty for cheating on such a nice girl. You’ll then feel compelled to make a surprise phone call, be more affectionate or loving, or even buy her something small like a chocolate truffle or rose. Resist this urge and proceed with your normal routine because girls can sense when you’re doing something out of the ordinary. She’ll know that you are trying to relieve your guilt, and while she may not automatically assume it’s from cheating, she’ll know you did something wrong.

When you get good at cheating, you also get good at identifying cheating along with the precursors of cheating, like when she meets another guy that she’s attracted to. In due time you’ll be able to piece together storylines. For example let’s take a look at this following hypothetical situation:

Friday: Your Igbo girl texts you from a party, says there are “a lot of Manchies.” Stays there late.

Saturday: You send her a text at 6pm but she waits three hours before replying that she was “sleeping.”

Following Friday: She says she’ll be busy Saturday, but doesn’t say with whom. Even though it’s easier to say “I’m going out with Stevie,” some girls have trouble lying.

Saturday night: She says she is free.

Likely Story: She met a Manchie on the first Friday and he asked her on a date or drink early Saturday evening. There he told her to keep the following Saturday free but eventually flaked on (disappointed) her. This means she’s actively looking for better. Either you step up and offer more of her core needs (without being needy about it of course), or you can say fuck it, get a couple more bangs, and move onto another girl.

Besides concrete evidence like a text message, email, or hair clip, your girl will never have 100% solid proof against you. By being an accomplished liar, avoiding sloppy moves, and covering holes that develop, it becomes very close to impossible for her to catch you. All this so you can have your cake and eat it too. I think it’s a good way for a man to live, but if your ass gets caught don’t blame me.

uh uh... closing my eyes

And I’ll talk to you again soon

Your friend…

 …..Leonhart

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO SAY "I LOVE YOU"?

When should I play the L card? What’s the right time to say I love you?

Is there ever a right time? What if I say it and she doesn’t? Should I say it first or wait for her to say it? What if it gets awkward between us after I say those three most POWERFUL words in the universe?

If you’re grappling with these questions presently, then congratulations, you’re past the casual fling stage and entering a stage in your relationship where you’re starting to get serious with your partner. The timing has to be spot on, the atmosphere, the setting, has to be memorable. It doesn’t need to be a seven star hotel when you lay your heart open, it could even be your living room (make sure it’s clean). So how do you figure when its the RIGHT time to tell her you love her?

Get your reasons right

Saying I love you to someone is a beautiful thing, so make sure it’s not said for the wrong reasons. It is not to be thrown around casually. Maybe you’re insecure in the relationship and you feel these words will reel your partner in and make them feel guilty enough into staying with you. Or, your girlfriend is too shy to jump into the sack with you and the L word, you think, is your trump card into sealing the deal. No. Make sure your intentions are good, your heart, pure, and what you feel for this person, a hundred percent true (if possible)

Test the waters

You’ve been on quite a few romantic dates. You’ve kissed each other passionately, and held hands, whispered sweet nothings in each others ears. You know you like her, a lot, and she likes you back. It’s in the way you try to touch each other, the way her pupils dilate when she looks at you, the way she smiles at you. You love spending time with her, and when you aren’t around her, you find yourself invariably reaching for the phone to talk to her or text her. But wait for a little longer before you lay the L card. Get to know her feelings well. Find out if she really feels about you the way you feel about her. Whether, she too, sees this relationship going somewhere. Don’t say it too soon because it might overwhelm her and she might bolt. But don’t hold it back for too long either, or else she might go looking for love elsewhere.

Don’t say it under influence

OK, so you’ve been thinking of saying it, you just haven’t had the courage yet. However, you’ve made up your mind to do it one of these days – whatever happens, happens. But DO NOT use alcohol as a crutch to help you speak what’s in your heart. Of course, alcohol will relax you and you might feel you can pretty much do anything. But if you want to be taken seriously by your girlfriend, if you want to say the words, I love you, exactly the way you planned to say them, and if you want to remember the special moment for all the right reasons (not throwing up and making a scene), stay away from alcohol. Nothing like slurring the most important words you’ll ever say and drooling for added effect.

Go with your gut

Mostly it’s just that strong intense feeling in your gut that says what you’re about to do is the right thing, much like knowing when to lean in for that first kiss. You can just feel it coursing through your veins, a sort of an uneasy sensation that rises up to your throat and you feel if you don’t share it with your girlfriend, you might die. Mildly melodramatic, but it is true. Listen to your gut very carefully because that little bugger is right most of the times.

Once you feel you’re ready to say the magical words, just take her hands in yours, look deep into her eyes, and tell her what’s in your heart. Tell her you love her and that you can’t believe how incredibly happy she makes you; that when she’s around, you feel like a different man, a better man, the luckiest man alive; that you can spend the rest of your life in her sweet embrace.

 And i'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend

...LEONHART

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PAYING IN DATING (When and How to Spend)

It's a FACT: right now, most single women are feeling frustrated and unsatisfied with the men they're meeting.

That in mind, I have to ask you...

WHY AREN'T YOU TAKING ADVANTAGE OF THIS SITUATION?

If you're still sitting on the bench, there can only be 2 possible reasons for it:

#1) You have so many women chasing you that you don't even need to try.

Or...

#2) You're dealing with obstacles like anxiety, fear, or lack of self-esteem that destroy your chances of success before you even get started.

If #2 sounds like you, I'm here to tell you that you can CHANGE EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW...and it's easier than you think

 

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

I have a question concerning dating and when/when not to pay for stuff. At what point (if any) should I pay for both of us when dating? I don't want to get the woman into the mind set of "courtship." What should a man pay for when he's dating?

"THE LIONS DEN" has changed me for the better. I look forward to getting your posts.

Sincerely, E.

MY COMMENTS:

This is a common dilemma that most men face...

"To pay or not to pay, that is the question."

Before i go on let me say something. there are women who dont fancy men spending much or even spending at all on them and every unique woman has her reasons.. however, there are two common reasons why some women do that.

1. They don't want you believing they owe you something (Anything...especially sex).

2. A woman genuinely likes you and seeing that you're not financially strong wouldn't want you to attempt winning her over with gifts and cash..she wants you to be yourself.

There are other reasons but lets proceed at this point..

Here are some of the problems that "paying" creates:

1. It sets you up as the one who is "pursuing" the woman, which symbolically gives away your power to her.

2. It can be expensive.

3. It usually causes women to play even "harder to get".

4. It triggers all kinds of "courtship" behaviors. Like her making you prove yourself, waiting to have sex, etc.

5. The places you'll be going to "pay" are often not the best places to actually get to know another human being. Movies, fancy dinners, etc., aren't natural environments and they don't lead to people "being themselves".

So, what's the alternative?

Well, the FIRST thing you should do is CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK ABOUT "DATING"...and "paying".

Most guys just naturally assume that if they're "taking a girl out" that they need to take her to a show or movie, a nice dinner, etc.

And by the way, this is actually part of a much BIGGER issue...that most guys feel OBLIGATED to give things to women, buy them things...and basically PAY for their attention and affection.

If you've got a "bad" case of this, then I recommend that you visit my blog again and do some real reading from my older posts. It will help you change all of that BAD programming, and build a self image and a powerful self confidence that will make women feel more NATURALLY attracted to you.

Of course, these are basically the WORST places to go with a woman in the beginning because, as I mentioned above, they aren't very "natural" places to be.

Instead of asking a woman "out to dinner", try this...

When you're talking on the phone about getting together say, "Let's meet for a cup of tea. This way, if YOU turn out to be a complete freak, I can run away easily."

If she has a good sense of humor...this will get a laugh, and it will get her thinking to herself, "Wow, this guy is qualifying ME."

Also, suggest a place that's close to your house, in case you want to invite her over afterward.

When you meet for tea, actually drink tea (or iced tea/cream). Because coffee makes your breath nasty and tea is perceived as a more "classy" drink. It's also cheaper than a latte or a mocha.

After you have tea for 30 or 60 minutes, decide how YOU like HER. If you want to continue say either:

"Hey, let's keep talking. I want to shop for a bit, come along."

...or...

"Hey, let's keep talking. Where are you parked? You can follow me..." (to your place, of course).

In either case, just assume that she will go along with whatever you're doing, and she almost always will if you're doing a good job of being Cocky & Funny and keeping her attention.

If you do go out "shopping", go to a funky alternative neighborhood mall that has maybe tattoo shops, record stores, ethnic food restaurants, etc. Every city has an area like this, so go there.

These places are SO GREAT because they have fun and interesting conversation BUILT RIGHT IN.

If things are going well, and you're enjoying the time with her, you can then have her follow you over to your place. Again, just tell her that you're enjoying the conversation, and that you'd like to continue...and for her to follow you.

Total expense (if you pay for her tea and yours):

A few bucks.

How much better is this than taking her out to an expensive meal and trying to have a normal conversation across a table while being forced to look right at each other all night?

You do the math.

If you actually do a little creative thinking, you can figure out ALL KINDS of great things to do that cost little or no money at all when you go out with women.

Extra bonus:

When you don't do "normal" dating things, women will tend to play "hard to get" less. They'll expect less in the way of gifts and money spent on them and they'll actually HAVE MORE FUN and want to go out with you again and again

Really.

And if you're reading this right now, and you haven't yet read my previous posts, go back and read all of them at THE LIONS DEN (www.chriskingleonhart.com) and it will make EVERYTHING about women and dating make more sense.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

LEONHART.

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