If you listen to women talk about men, you'll often hear them use the word "annoying" to describe certain men and certain things that some men do.
Now, as you can probably guess, it's not usually a good thing when a woman uses this particular word to describe a guy... And, as you can also probably guess, when a woman uses this particular word, it's not usually about guys who she is attracted to (although this isn't always true).
Now, it's taken me a few years of paying attention to really get a handle on what women are talking about when they say, "He's annoying" or "It's so annoying when he does that."
Have you ever thought that things were going well with a woman... when she suddenly started to "flake" on you (fall your hand)... "blow you off"... or just plain lose interest in you?
If so, here's what YOU need to know:
Here are the common, instantly ATTRACTION-KILLING things that a man does to instantly "tell" a woman that he's not right for her. (Whenever a woman suddenly loses interest in you, chances are it's because you accidentally did one of these things!)
The Answer lies in A Man's WUSSY Behavior.
But let's get much more specific. Here they are - the list of Wussy behaviors that annoy a woman the most and make her want to run for the hills:
1. Calling her too often
2. Telling her that you have "feelings" for. her too early
3. Giving away your power to her and making her the boss.
4. Always asking a woman what she wants instead of leading
5. Acting submissive and weak,
Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and manipulative requests
Being her doormat and putting your own needs aside
"What?" you say. "How could this be?" you might be thinking.
How is it possible that demonstrating your affection for a woman by calling her, telling her how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and putting her first could be considered annoying, of all things?
Well guess what? It is. Women, and especially the most attractive and desirable women, usually consider the above things to be very annoying.
Of course, the reason for this is because no matter how good these kinds of behaviours seem on the surface, there's only one conclusion that can be drawn from them: The man doing them is a bona fide, 100%-certified wussy. And like I always say:
Women Are NEVER Attracted To Wussies. EVER.
Now, do I really, really, really mean that women are never, ever attracted to Wussies? I mean, isn't that an over-generalization? Nothing is always true, right?
Well, this one is.
Actually, what I mean is... as far as generalisations go, this particular one is as close to being true all the time as they get. And just in case I haven't said this enough, let me say it one more time... just to make sure it's clear:
Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
So now you understand why all of the nice things that you've done for women seem to always result in the woman pulling away. It's because she finds your nice-guy Wuss behaviours to be annoying. And it keeps getting worse...
To further confuse things, you'll often hear a woman say something to the effect of... "I want a strong guy who is also sensitive..." ...or... "He needs to have his own life, his own interests, and his own friends, but also be totally focused on me..."
I see things like this in women's personal ads and profiles all the time. I'm sure you've seen things like this yourself. Women often talk about wanting a combination of things in a man that just don't seem to fit... So what's going on here?
Are women crazy? Yes. But seriously, what are they talking about?
How is it that women seem to always talk about wanting men who have these qualities that don't fit together?
Meanwhile, I know that I personally used to hear this stuff and then say to myself "Ok, well I've got the sensitive part covered so I guess I need to start acting a little bit stronger." I thought that maybe this came down to getting my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know, to become "stronger."
Well, here's the big realisation that I had...
I Realized That I Had Everything All Wrong!
Instead of thinking to myself that I was a nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little stronger, what I really needed was to become a strong guy who could also act sensitive on occasion.
The difference seems almost like word-play, but it's not. Not at all. You see, when a woman says that she wants a "strong guy who's also sensitive," that's what she means. She wants a guy who's strong. The sensitive part is far more optional than the strong part.
This is why women often date jerks and guys who are emotionally unavailable, and don't date us "nice guys" who would do anything for them.
Remember... ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.
Women do not sit down and make a list of the qualities that a particular guy has, then think it over it for a few days, then decide whether or not to feel ATTRACTION. No way. It happens in an instant, and it happens for all kinds of "illogical" reasons... reasons that even the woman who is feeling it can't usually describe.
So What's The Answer Here?
How To Become A "Real Man"
Next, I want you to raise your right hand, and repeat after me:
I will stop being a Wussy around women... I will stop being a Wussy around women... I will stop being a Wussy around women...
Stop doing things that say "I'm a Wussy," because those are the very things that women find annoying. And START doing the things that you're learning here...
Lean back
Act Cocky & Funny around women
Bust on them and give them a hard time
Lead the way, don't follow
Now, another one of the problems that a lot of guys run into is putting together different personality traits that don't seem to go together.
Women say that they want guys who are funny... but also strong. Many of the things women say they want seem like they conflict with each other.
What's a guy to do?
Well, the FIRST thing a guy should do is learn what works. Not what sounds like it might work. Not what should work. And not what is supposed to work.
Learning What REALLY Works: 3 Major Lessons
I personally spent several years trying to figure out what works. Why did it take me so long? Because, as it turns out, I started out with a HUGE disadvantage. And I'm not talking about a disadvantage like a big head/ogo (which I have).
I'm talking about a disadvantage like BAD PROGRAMMING. I had a "map" in my mind... of how I thought I should behave around women... and it turned out to be the wrong map.
The most frustrating part was that when I did the things that should work, they made women UN-interested. It was as if the world wasn't working right.
I would be sweet and nice, and a woman would not want to talk to me. I would call often and share my feelings with her, and she would fall for the rude jerk who could care less about treating her well.
The magic breakthrough came only after I started making friends with and watching guys who were very successful with women... then putting what I knew about psychology and behaviour together with the NEW stuff I was learning "in the field."
What I discovered was literally shocking to me. I can remember slapping myself on the forehead, and laughing to myself... as I watched some of my new friends who were good with women... doing things that just plain shouldn't work... but that did work.
When it comes to succeeding with women, here are three of the BIGGEST lessons I learned:
Lesson #1: Body Language is FAR more important than WORD language.
In fact, you can have the smoothest "pick up lines" in the world... but if you don't understand Body Language, the woman you're talking to can't feel attraction for you.
Here's another one:
Lesson #2: Doing "nice" things for a woman doesn't make her any more likely to feel attraction for you. In fact, most of these things backfire... and wind up pushing her AWAY.
In other words, you have to "get" that the answer here is to realize that many of the things you do when you're around women that you feel attracted to, are considered annoying by those women.
You must understand that you sometimes have to do things that seem to be "inconsiderate" in order to give a woman what she really wants (which is a man who is in control of himself, the situation, and often "her").
Here's a third lesson I learned:
Lesson #3: Even though "jerks" and "bad boys" don't treat women well, it doesn't mean that women don't feel attraction for them.
In fact, women often report feeling incredibly attracted to these kinds of men... so powerfully, in fact, that they can't control these feelings...
As I was learning these interesting and counter intuitive lessons, I also began documenting the specific things that the guys who were "naturals" with women did... in order to attract women. One of my biggest realisations was that literally any guy can attract women... if he just understands how attraction works.
And any guy can use the secrets that jerks and bad boys have discovered and used... WITHOUT being abusive or mean. In fact, if you leave out the meanness or abuse, a woman will be far more likely to stay around.
Thanks to my Boss David De 'Angelo for putting me through on this one.
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