FEET LICKING - THE HUMAN ANGLE.

I had a discussion today and something along the line made the person say something in the line of "lick your feet".

Since then I've been asking myself what it means for someone to lick someone's feet. I want to believe it is figurative and not literal because it's mostly when you watch lesbian porn you get to see that often (literally).

So Figuratively, it is derived from pets who lick their owners/masters feet and is often a sign of submission, approval, loyalty and happiness. Etc & More importantly it indicates their happiness in this role. By displaying this act of domesticity and submission, the dog may ensure its place in the family by accepting the social order of the home.

As humans, we term "feet licking" as a base concept of taking nonsense from someone who has something you need just because you need that stuff and not mostly because you enjoy "licking the feet". Many examples of this are seen in the follow relationships:

* Parent to Child/ward
* Employer to Employee
* Lecturer to Student
* Wife to Husband
* Males to female OR Females to male as in the case of sex atimes when one has to do "whatever" just to be allowed to "get down".

No need to go far... Just know that whoever has to "lick feet" is either showing loyalty, submission, happiness, approval & etc OR FAKING IT.. To someone who they feel they want stuff from or are getting something from already. So for the purpose of this article i will be focusing more on dating/relationship angle.

Why not lick face? Or lick breast or chest or lick hand...???
Well.. Based on this concept and imagery ; to successfully "lick feet" one has to first bend low enough which is a sign of submission; whether the person submitted with their heart or not.

As humans we do this to get what we want most often and then we do as we please later on, unless this symbiosis is eternally helpful.

A form of this symbiosis that society and biology has imposed on us is :

"Marriage"

Yes marriage. Because some cultures see marriage as a woman submitting to a man just so she is not put to shame or so she can have a name or so she can survive while she in turn bears children, caters for them and the man and keeps the house in place.

WRONG!!!

This Symbiosis shouldn't be mistaken. Marriage is companionship first, (God first saw that Adam was alone) then subsequently procreation (he asked them to be fruitful and multiply).
So, in that order are the primary reasons and a woman doesn't have to literally "lick a man's feet" in order to be regarded a woman. Yes, she can submit as the Bible asks, she should be loyal as the union demands, she should show also that she is loyal and approves NOT because she wants something from HER MAN.. but because SHE ACTUALLY IS!!
Anything short of that is fake and manipulative.
The man also has his DUTIES and Things he is expected to Maintain for the symbiosis to work. Sex is mutual (we both enjoy it) , procreation is mutual (we both need kids),
Care and attention is mutual ( no one is an island).

In order not to have a bulky seminar on this because i know my readers are smart and can pick up the gems and discard the rocks.
I will drop amidst my rants this opinionated piece of advice...

As a man, at some point/s in your life.. You will lick feet... You have to and you will. There's no escaping this my dear man.

But at a certain point you have to find yourself that person/people who will lick your feet happily because you have made yourself worthy of this and because they want to, not because they wanna use you, but because your feet deserve to be licked and they will do it happily to always show you how important you are in their lives (don't get too used to it though lest you get corrupted).

As a woman, if you are not careful you will lick an annoying number of feet in your life just to stand firm on your own. If you're silver spooned and connected good for you, if not.. Brace your self or brush your tongue because the feet licking no be here.

Even in relationships, make sure whosoever you decide to date is someone whose feet you won't mind licking, else you will find yourself frustrated at the thought. There are always people whose feet we will agree to lick without much ado.. Find one and date them. Don't complain that the guy you are managing wants you to lick his feet.. Stop managing.. Life is too short to manage. If he's not worth your attention, time, loyalty, faithfulness, submission, respect and etc please WTF are you doing with him?
LICKING FEET isn't the same thing as KISSING ASS and DON'T MISTAKE THE TWO... ONE IS A SIGN OF LOYALTY AND ANOTHER IS THE SIGN OF A SHITLOAD OF NONSENSE.

When you want to Mate, you woo and seduce and then you use foreplay to set the ball rolling...
When you want to get something or prove that you're grateful for something you
Lick feet Dammit. If you think you ain't a feet licker think again.. We all lick feet to someone somewhere who has us "balls in hand". Politicians lick feet, eat shit and even suck balls join sef. Musicians do, footballers do, Pastors do... Someone somewhere right now is Licking feet (bending low to show respect).
You're not too big to lick feet brother...
You're not too fine and big to lick feet sister..
That your paddy with a house in banana island licked someone's feet very hard to get there (there are exceptions tho).

So remember my advice up there amongst my rants and always be with someone whose feet is WORTH THE LICK!

And I'll talk to you again soon..

Your Friend

Leonhart...

GIRLS AND THE SECRET OF THE CUBE

Lions an Lionesses, that's how i ventured into cold reading oh..
Psychology or Kokology ... Palm reading is one type but this you
just have to try.....

The secret of the cube is a psychological game, its very tricky to
learn and execute but this is one mind game that most attentive and
level headed girls enjoy. I would suggest you wait until the first date
or till shes totally cool with you physically or via chats to do it,
because it takes a while to complete and you need an environment
where there are few distractions.

You can start by asking, "Hey let's play a game. I'm going to ask
you a few questions and your answers will tell me all I need to
know about you." Tell her to relax before you begin, then start. As
you read the routine, pretend I'm doing it on you so you can try to
analyze your answers afterwards.

"Imagine yourself in the middle of the desert. It's a really big
desert and you are the only person there." She may close her eyes
to better imagine this scene. "Now in the middle of this desert,
there is a cube. Describe this cube to me, however you imagine it
to be."

Ask about its size, its relation to the desert (on the floor,
floating in the air, etc.), and what material it's made out of.
Urge her to be as detailed as possible, and only continue when she
is completely done answering.

"In addition to the cube, there is a ladder. Where is this ladder
in relation to the cube?" Ask what material it is made out of and
how many rungs/steps it has.

"Next up is a horse. Where is the horse in relation to the cube and
the ladder?" Ask her about the size, type, and color of the horse.

"Now imagine flowers. Where are they in relation to the cube,
ladder, and horse?" Ask her about the quantity, color, and type of
flowers. Always give her time to provide rich details to get her
imagination going.

"Finally, there is a storm in the horizon. Is the storm coming
closer to you, going away, or staying still?" Then tell her that
the game is finished and that her answers are very interesting.
Feel free to hype up the upcoming analysis by saying you learned
something about her that you didn't expect.

When it comes to the analysis, all you have to know is that the
cube is a representation of her, the ladder is her friends and
family, the horse is her lover, the flowers are her future
children, and the storm is a big problem. With a general idea of
what each one means, and your understanding of the girl, you will
make up an analysis that is both believable and accurate.

INTERPRETATION:

CUBE:
The cube represents the player's image of herself.
A cube that is small in the perspective of the scene suggests that
the player thinks of herself as insignificant or modest while
a larger cube suggests the opposite. A cube on the ground indicates
the player is "down to earth," while a floating cube may indicate a dreamer.
The material of the cube is also of interest.
Generally, a large cube means her ego is large. A small cube means
insecurity, but keep the analysis positive in this case by saying
she is timid or not in possession of a large ego. The material of
the cube displays strength. If her cube material is strong and
solid instead of hollow, this means she is a strong person capable
of handling problems without collapsing, and so on. A soft cube means
she is hesitant and needs a lot of assurances before starting a new
task.

LADDER
The ladder is her support circle. The closer her ladder is to the
cube, the more she relies on her friends and family. If the ladder
leans on her cube, she relies on them as much as they do. If the
ladder is on top of her cube, her circle may be smothering her. If
it's far away, she doesn't rely on them much. Rungs on a ladder say
how many people are close to her life. A strong ladder material
says she can count on her family and friends more than if it was
made with weaker material.

HORSE:
The horse represents the player's lover. As with the previous objects,
the closer to the cube the horse is, the more important or intimate
(or possessive!) the love life of the player is. The horse can also
represent anything you are passionate about, and not just a person
The horse size says whether she wants a dominant or subordinate
male. A large horse means she wants to be led. A pretty horse like
a pony means she wants a metrosexual man. A small horse means she
wants to dominate her partner. The distance between the horse and
the cube and ladder says how close her lover will be to her life. A
horse in a cage (or otherwise immobilized) means she wants to
destroy you.

FLOWERS:
The flowers represent the player's children or future children;
it can also represent creative projects or clients like something
the player creates and/or takes care of. Flowers close to the cube
suggest a close relationship with children (or creations or clients),
while a beaten-down flower would suggest a bad or broken relationship with them.
The number of flowers says how many children she wants to have. The
closer they are to her lover (the horse) means the father will be
close to the children. I'm not sure what flower type is but you can
make it up to mean what type of gender she prefers or what she
wants her kids to be when they grow up.

STORM:
Finally,
the storm's movement signifies if a problem is coming or going
towards her and if she has to soon deal with something important or not.
The storm represents the player's current problems and
her attitude toward them. A storm covering the entire scene
would suggest that the player feels overwhelmed by current problems,
while a storm in the distance or a small storm would suggest
no major, unmanageable problems in the present, and possibly
an optimistic attitude toward the future. A static storm means a problem
that will be staying with you for longer than usual or forever.

SAMPLE.....
Let's do a sample analysis with answers that will be pretty
typical.

Say her cube is about four feet tall, made out of solid wood, and
slightly elevated off the ground. Her ladder is laying on top of
the cube, with ten rungs/steps and made out of metal. There is a large,
black horse that is making circles around the cube and ladder and
there are three yellow dandelions very close by. Finally, she
envisions a storm that is neither coming nor going.

For example if I knew that she is an artsy, independent type, here
is the analysis I would give:

"The cube is a representation of you. Your cube is large, which
means you have a healthy ego and a high sense of self-worth. You
like to keep your head up. The cube is elevated off the ground so
that tells me you're a dreamer. You think a lot and tend to lean
towards the creative side of things instead of the analytical. Wood
is a strong material, meaning you see yourself as strong as well.
It cannot be easily broken. For instance the cube could be hollow
but it's not.

"The fact that your ladder is on top of you means that others rely
on you for support and advice more than you rely on them. So
sometimes you feel smothered. Each step/rung represents a person
who you are close to, so you have a lot of people that place their
trust in you. The ladder is made out of metal, a strong material,
which says your support network is strong and dependable.

"The horse is your lover. Its large size means you want to be led,
and maybe even dominated. But the horse is not too close to the
cube and ladder, so this means you want space from your lover as
well.

"The three flowers means you want a small family. Yellow (as for the
dandelions) is a neutral color so you imagine at least one boy and
one girl. They are close to the cube and ladder which is good
because children should be close to you and your friends and family.
It's hard to tell from your answers where you lover fits in.

"Finally, the storm represents a problem. It's neither going nor
coming, which means that there may be an issue you have that is
staying with you indefinitely."

Because the cube game is involved, it is best you practice it on at
least five other people before you do it on a date. If you get lost
in your analysis, just shovel back what you already know about her
without being too obvious about it.

For instance if the guy friend you are doing it on for practice is
an alpha male type, tell him his cube says he feels confident with
his decision making and likes to lead. If your date is a really
insecure girl, tell her that she is sometimes filled with doubt and
goes through periods of uncertainty.

I've never had a girl who didn't eat up my cube analysis and it's
not because I was necessarily right, but because girls love playing
games that supposedly reveal their true nature. (By the time you do
the cube on her, she has done a hundred of those multiple-choice
personality quizzes.) Even if you are wrong, she will love telling
you how and why, so in the process you really do learn more about
her. If you have a girl get bored or flunk out before you're done,
then revert to my earlier statement about a girl needing to be attentive
and level headed for this to work. If my dear friend you're unlucky
to meet or have that type..what you do with her is "all yo' bidness"

After you're done giving her analysis, feel free to tell her what
your answers to the cube were when your friend (i.e. me) did it on
you. I guarantee you she'll be curious to hear it.

The cube game takes a lot of practice and homework but it's worth
it because it gives you experience with cold reading, a method of
spitting vague generalities that on the surface seem very personal
and accurate. Generally, the more complicated a routine, the bigger
payoff it has if you execute it correctly.

Before I knew how attraction really worked, I'd approach a girl and
talk about boring topics such as work or her favorite movies, and
then she would politely excuse herself from the conversation only a
couple minutes into it. But now I know better. When you talk about
more interesting topics, she sees you as more INTERESTING. Duh,
right? With a couple additional techniques, the "interesting" is
turned into strong attraction.

Once attraction is built you can get her number and take her on a
date later, or go for the one night stand (my preferred method).

For more indepth or extensive reading into the cube games secrets..
visit
https://www.scribd.com/doc/353009/The-secret-of-the-cube

                                             And i'll talk to you again soon,

                                                   Your Friend...

                                                                     ..Leonhart

Photos: google images

sources: psychology wiki, rooshv

DAY5- PRIVACY OR SECRECY

 IS IT RIGHT TO CHECK YOUR PARTNERS
PHONE/MESSAGES.

Every week, I get asked some variation of the following question:
“I know I shouldn’t have, but I looked through my girlfriend’s cell phone. She’s talking to her ex. How do I confront her about it without looking like the bad guy?”…. AND… “He was always stepping away to answer calls and he changes his password all the time… he must be cheating…etc as the list goes on.


There are several reasons partners check each others messages.
1. Suspicion
2. Previous record of infidelity.
3. Insecurity e.g. feeling of inferiority
4. Previous experience with cheating partners.
5. Tired of Relationship and seeking escape.
6. Frequent correspondence with fictional contact by partner.
7. Frequent or unnecessary encryption (locking) of partner’s phone or device.
8. Over indulging in chats or calls and hiding content from partners gaze.
9. Stumbling over chats/messages in an attempt to use partners’ device.
10a, No reason at all, just plain curiosity. (Or could it be the relationship was so rosy and too good to be true… “ahh he’s gotta have some dirt on him”).
10b, He’s always finding faults with me and catching me in wrong positions….I gotta dig for something to hold him with.
And so on….



According to NICKIS LOVE CORNER (ADENIKE) 
You really don’t know a person until you have looked through their cellphone. Nowadays, a cell phone is more than just a device to make emergency phone calls with. A cellphone is a personal and PRIVATE device that stores a plethora of information. You will discover a world of new things about a person when you look through their cellphone if you have never done it before…

I had a friend who was in a happy relationship UNTIL she looked through her boo’s phone. She saw text conversations she never imagined existed and it caused her to end the relationship with her otherwise near perfect man.
In spite of knowing what you can find in a cellphone, many of us still refrain from looking through our partner’s cell phone. Why?

Two reasons:
1. You don’t want to know.
2. You trust your partner.

You don’t want to know
Seek and you shall find. If you are looking for something bad, that is what you will find. People choose not to look through their partner’s cellphone because they have no interest in finding something that may mess up the relationship. It’s not necessarily trust, it is more like avoidance. In the story I mentioned above, my friend learned her lesson early on and has made a lifelong decision never to look through a guy’s phone ever again. There is no way to build a cheat-proof relationship, so focus on the good things about the relationship instead of looking for the bad. Be happy with what you have and don’t worry about finding something wrong. What you don’t know won’t hurt you.
If your partner gives you a reason to doubt with unusual behavior’s, then its best that you confront him/her about it. If you are trying to find a reason to end the relationship that should be good reason enough to end a relationship, you don’t have to wait to find something unbearable.
You trust your partner
Trust is something that is earned by consistent behavior. A woman reflects the love a man gives her. Trust is reflected by a woman who is treated well by a virtuous man. A virtuous man is honest and has integrity. Ideally, a man shouldn’t give his woman the desire to have to look for evidence in his phone. A woman who trusts her man is a confident woman and a woman who feels secure in her position and value in the relationship. This is healthy.
If you DO decide to look through his phone:
Be prepared. Make sure you are ready for what you are going to find and for the reactions that will come with it:
Stress; stress causes sleepless nights, headaches and illnesses; Arguments; Fights, Disturbing thoughts that will haunt you forever….And for what- if you are going to make up with your partner anyway? UNLESS you are ready to make that tough decision to BREAKUP: end it all, let that person go, suffer a loss and start zero with someone new.
My advice…
Think thoroughly before you take action. Do not act out of impulse. Ask yourself a few questions that will assess your real motives for looking through someone’s phone: what are you really looking for and why? What will be the repercussions of your actions? If something bad is indeed happening, it will soon come to light all on its own. There is no need to worry or play detective, “For there is nothing hid that shall not be manifested.” Mathew 4:22
…. OKAY THAT’S ALL SHE SAID


NOW LET ME LOOK AT THIS IN DIFFERENT WAYS

NUMBER 1
Does trust exist if one of you are secretly checking up on the other via their phone, email, social networking sites or by doing a good old-fashioned rummage through the pockets?
The answer is: it depends on what’s happened to trigger it.
If you’re snooping (let’s not dress it up people, that’s exactly what spying on your partner’s personal life is) on a consistent and regular basis, your relationship is going well, your partner seems happy and their behavior hasn’t changed to alert suspicion, you have trust issues or don’t trust the person you’re with.
If you sense something has changed – they are acting out of character, ‘working late’ a little too often, taking more care with their appearance, suddenly taking their phone to the loo and guarding it fiercely, putting passwords on their laptop when previously they had none or any of the other telltale trouble signs of an affair AND you’ve confronted them about your suspicions and not got a direct answer – then I find some discreet snooping understandable.
In that scenario, you are checking up on a partner due to a real fear that something is happening to threaten your relationship. I think most of us will hold our hands up to admit to doing it under those circumstances at some point in our lives, even if we do trust our partners the other 95% of the time.
The problem is, even innocent things take on ominous overtones when you can’t ask for an explanation. What seems like outrageously flirty texts from a workmate, might just be ‘Jane’s’ way: she sends texts like that to everyone in the office, dramatically diluting the danger factor. But you don’t know that because you can’t ask.
Emails from an ex pouring their heart out also mean nothing. That’s their perspective on the relationship, not your partner’s. Most of us have exes we have soft spots for. Your partner’s kind reply that says ‘I admit I do think of you often’, could be nothing but them trying to console/comfort someone who was once dear to them, gently. But unless you admit you snooped, you end up plagued with fears that could be groundless.
The only way to truly curb suspicion is to sit your partner down and be honest about how you’re feeling. Tell them specifically why you are unsure of their feelings for you. If you can’t pin down the feeling, tell them it’s just a gut instinct. If they’re innocent and love you, they will leap to reassure you everything is fine. (If they sigh or roll their eyes, it could be they’ve done it once too often and it’s time to take yourself off to see a therapist to work through the root of your insecurity.) If, instead, they look uncomfortable, get defensive and don’t instantly envelope you in a huge hug, watch their face and body language carefully. Do their eyes slide away from yours? Do they move their hands out of the way or take a step backward? Very few people are able to lie to a loved one while touching them. Are they touching their face a lot or leaking anxiety by jiggling a foot or a leg? All these things are far better indicators of their feelings for you and more accurate relationship alarm bells.


NUMBER 2

It is not healthy to check your partner’s correspondence – unless, the two of you have agreed that it is ok and the same rule applies to you both.
All couples have different boundaries around privacy and hence if a couple agrees that open sharing of correspondence is what they want to do then clearly that’s fine. But for those who do not have that agreement in place, being checked up on could at best feel like an irritating invasion of personal space, and at worst, be perceived as controlling, disrespectful and abusive.
It’s important to recognize that there’s a difference between privacy and secrecy.  There are many reasons why we may prefer to keep some aspects of our lives private from our partner, for example for reasons of modesty, independence or respecting the confidentiality of others.  But if we insist on some things being kept secret, then the motivation is more often about protecting oneself from guilt. Guilt that is most often caused by knowing that a partner would be hurt if the secret were found out.
Trust is the bedrock of any relationship and trust is built on transparency, honesty and open communication. This means that couples should talk about their needs for privacy and also agree what kinds of communications with others are ok, and not ok, within their relationship.  When boundaries are negotiated and agreed, there should be no reason to ‘check up’ on each other.  One exception to this might be when there has already been a significant breach of trust such as an infidelity, but even in these cases, spot checks should be done within an open and mutual spirit of accountability and reassurance, rather than suspicion and control.

In a technology-filled world, the temptation to read your man's Facebook messages or snoop through his texts and call records is overwhelming. But are you in the right to do so?

When Jane logged onto her husband's email, she was hoping for the best right?  Instead, she was met with a rude awakening: clear cut evidence of her husband's affair scattered throughout his emails. Love notes, song lyrics, photos of the two of them together, but that wasn't all. The worst was a pro/con list, written by her husband, on whether or not he should leave her. "It was the worst thing I have ever seen with my eyes," Jane said.
She's not alone: according to a 2011 study, 41-percent of women have snooped through their man's phone or emails. Modern technology offers a whole new variety of ways to spy on your partner. Looking through drawers and checking for lipstick on the collar is a thing of the past. According to a January 2013 poll by the Daily Mail, going through your partner's cell phone is now the top reason why cheating and affairs are exposed.

Why do we snoop? When Olivia’s boyfriend left his cell phone at her house, the temptation was too much to resist. "Of course what girl would not wanna look at everything that was in there?" she told me. Of course, giving into temptation can have some drastic consequences. When Prince was reading through his phone one night while they were in bed, she saw that he had been texting quite a few other girls, which led her to end the relationship. All this sneaking around raises a big question: Is it wrong to read your man's texts or emails if you end up learning he's been hiding things from you, or does snooping bring you down to his level?
Snooping may be a breach of trust, but it can also expose some untrustworthy behavior. The most common of this is evidence of cheating. Steamy emails, declarations of love, notifications from dating sites, and worse. Hannah found naked photos of other women when reading through her boyfriend's text messages.


Sometimes, you just have a sixth sense, a feeling that something is up. When your senses are tingling and a phone is ready for snatching, controlling the urge to snoop isn't easy. Such was the case for Tochi, who became wary of her boyfriend's relationship with his ex. After he refused to say her name and bitterly reminisce about their time together, she knew he wasn't quite over her yet. When he started mentioning her more-and-more, warning signs went off. Tochi’s snooping started innocently enough: looking through his Facebook to see if he had added her again. As her lurking continued, she discovered that they had been talking again and were planning on meeting up for coffee. She broke up with him soon after.
While her snooping was instrumental in the demise of her relationship, Tochi feels that snooping is sometimes necessary to find out the information you deserve. "I would snoop again only if I felt something was off," she said. "Otherwise, I understand boundaries. I'm not that interested in what my boyfriend talks about with his friends."
It's not always infidelity that women catch when they snoop around. Sometimes, you learn that they've been doing the same thing to you. When Cindy’s boyfriend gave her his password, she started reading his emails. The snooping didn't end there: When he borrowed her laptop and forgot to logout, she was able to search through his Facebook, as well. She discovered that he had subscribed to her check-ins in order to receive notifications about her whereabouts. Tochi stressed the fact that if you're going to snoop, you need to prepare yourself for what you may find. "I guess when you're looking for something, you'll find it," Tochi said.


When women find incriminating information through snooping, as you might expect, they oftentimes won't stand for it, and they act out. Such was the case for Vanessa. She had a bad feeling about the man she had been seeing. One night after he had fallen asleep, she grabbed his phone and quickly scrolled through his text messages. Turns out her intuition had been right-there were texts from three different women in his inbox.
Instead of confronting him, she quickly wrote back to the other women in his phone, telling them that he was ending it with them, and he was getting serious with another girl. She then proceeded to delete all of his contacts-her own number included. Maybe it's true what they say-hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
But perhaps the best way to satisfy your curiosity is simply to ask. Men with nothing to hide may be more willing to share the contents of their phone or email with you. "The easiest way to find out if your boyfriend is hiding something is to simply ask him if you can look through his phone and if he says no, well then there's your answer," Susan said.

I’ve lived through this scenario, I’ll start out by saying that we’re missing the point.
You looked in the cell phone for a reason, right? Perhaps your girlfriend suddenly added a password to her phone. Perhaps she’s been spending time with friends more often, or is being secretive and vague when you ask her questions. You know something’s off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. So what do you do?
You look for proof.
Your girlfriend goes to the bathroom, your eyes laser beam over to her cell phone, and before you know it, you’re scrolling through her text messages, looking for the reason you feel a knife twisting in your gut every time she says she’s going out with friends.
Well this same theme plays out in many different ways in relationships. Maybe you don’t check her phone, but you look through her emails instead. Maybe you feel sick to your stomach every time she goes out and you don’t know where she is. Maybe you’ve even gone as far as following her to places and spying on her.
The bottom line is that you don’t trust her. But more importantly, you don’t trust YOU! Something’s up and you can feel it in your gut.
It’s not about whether or not you found someone in your partner’s phone. It’s about trust. You must be able to trust your partner, and you must be able to trust yourself.
So for all of you considering checking your partner’s phone that haven’t yet pulled the trigger: THINK!!!
Stop trying to control the situation and start taking responsibility for what you can control.. YOU!! 

 Why do you need proof that cheating is occurring to acknowledge that you don’t feel safe in the relationship?
Speak up, confront the issue head on, and have a conversation about it.
For all of you that have already checked the cell phone, and that stumbled upon some suspicious text messages or phone calls, I gently say to you wake up.
I’m not saying to approach your partner with boxing gloves on, ready to fight. But I am saying that if it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck: It’s probably a duck.
If you’ve checked the phone and there’s nothing there, this is still your issue. What really prompted your concern? Was it an old wound? Self-worth issues? Fear?
Be honest. Go and have a real conversation about that twisting feeling in your gut. Figure out what’s really going on, and if that twisting feeling won’t go away do not ignore it.
Trust yourself to make the right decision. Trust your gut.

Have you ever checked your partner’s cell phone? What did you find? Share your story below.

And i'll talk to you again soon...

Your Friend , 
........Leonhart

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Questions to Test Your Relationship Compatibility

Are you and your lover thinking along the same lines? Here are some relationship questions that can help both of you understand each other better.

A relationship is all about compatibility.

Opposites attract all the time, but too many opposites and no similarities won’t really help a relationship succeed.

When you have small differences, it makes them cute.

But when you have differences in your approach to life or your ethics about relationships, it’s definitely not good for the romance.

One of you could compromise, but that’s not really an option for the long term, is it?

Are you in a relationship with someone for around a year or so?

Then these questions will definitely help both of you test your compatibilities and understand each other better.

Do you find yourself getting angry with your partner for no reason at all? Perhaps, there are some overlooked issues that you need to face together.

Relationship questions to create better love

Sit down with your partner on a lazy Sunday afternoon, ask each other these questions and have an open mind. To make it easier for your partner so they don’t assume any of these are trick questions, you answer first so they know your views too (risky though if it’s the man asking and answering first, women tend to customize their answers to resemble yours and to protect the relationship.. e.g when u ask how many people u dated in life and the man says 5…even if she’s dated an uncountable figure she’ll put it around or below the guys own figure).

Don’t let any questions annoy you and don’t ever clam up or go on the defensive. Remember, the answers to these questions should be truthful and help both of you understand each other better.

And by the time you’re done with the questions, you’d know more about each other and would also understand each other’s approach to life too.

#1. Name two of my closest friends.

 
#2. What was I wearing when we first met?

 
#3. Where was I born? 

 
#4. When is my birthday?

 
#5. Who is my favorite relative?

 
#6. What is my fondest unrealized dream?

 
#7. What is my favorite time of day for lovemaking?

 
#8. What was one of my best/worst childhood experiences?

  

#9. What do I like most to do with my time off?

 
#10. What is my favorite movie?

 
#11. What do I fear most?

 
 

#12. Which side of the bed do I prefer?

 
#13. What medical problems do I worry about most?

 
#14. What is my favorite romantic restaurant?

 
#15. Name one of my favorite novels. 

 
#16. Name two of the people I admire most.

 
#17. What is my favorite sex position?

 
#18. What spot on my body is most sensitive?

 
#19. What was my most embarrassing moment?

 
#20. What is my favorite outfit to wear when I want to look sexy? 

 
#21. Do I prefer texts or calls?

 
#22. What is my favorite holiday?

 
#23. What physical quality am I most attracted to in the opposite sex?

#24. When was the first time I had sex?

#25. How many kids do I want to have?

#26. What is the date of our anniversary?

#27. What did I think about you when we first met?

 
#28. When did we have our first kiss?

#29. What is my favorite getaway place?

#30. What is my favorite way to spend an evening?

 

#31 What is the ideal number of calls a couple should exchange in a day?

#32 Would you compromise your happiness for the success of the relationship?

#33 What’s your idea of a romantic vacation?

#34 What’s the single most important thing for a relationship to be successful?

#35 What would you define as cheating?

#36 If I cheated on you, would you ever forgive me? 

#37 Would you ever say sorry to me even if it’s not your fault?

#38 Are you friends with any of your exes?

#39 How should finances be planned between a couple?

#40 Do you think celebrating Valentine’s Day is corny?

#41 What was your first impression about me?

#42 Can you avoid flirting if someone attractive flirts with you when I’m not around?

#43 Do you think romantic gifts have to be memorable or do they have to be useful?

#44 How would you want to spend a special day with each other?

#45 What is the most special memory of us that you hold?

#46 If I told you to jump off a tall cliff and tell you that you’ll land safely because there’s a net you can’t see yet, would you blindly trust me and jump?

#47 Do you have to know all of my friends?

#48 Do you think past relationship secrets should always be kept hidden?

#49 Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?

#50 Is it fine for a partner to use the toilet with the door open?

#51 After a break up, would you ask for your gifts back/would you give back all the gifts?

#52 Which love song best describes our relationship?

#53 Describe your perfect man/woman that you would like to date.

#54 In a relationship, what would make you feel happier, sharing or sacrificing?

#55 Would you lie to make me happy and where would you draw the line?

#56 What are some annoying habits of other couples that irritate you the most?

#57 Who would you prefer as a partner, a good looking person or an extremely clever person?

#58 How do you vent out your frustrations in a relationship?

#59 When was the last time I came in your dreams?

#60 If we went to a store to buy a couch and both of us liked different couches, would you still go with my pick?

#61 Is sex about constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules?

#62 How often would you want to go out on a date with me in a month?

#63 What is your biggest sexual turn off?

#64 What do you find sexiest about a person of the opposite sex?

#65 What’s your wildest sexual fantasy that you’d want to try with me?

#66 Would you feel insecure if I spent a lot of time at work?

#67 How many sexual partners have you had in the past?

#68 If you were convinced that I was making a bad decision, what would you do about it?

#69 Do you like babies/how many kids would you like to have someday?

#70 When was the last time you disliked me?

#71 If someone attractive exchanges glances with you at work or out there, would you tell me about it?

#72 What’s the craziest thing you’d be willing to do for me?

#73 What kind of a parent do you think you’d be?

#74 When do you think a person is ready for marriage?

#75 What’s the one thing about me you’d like to change?

#76 In an argument, whose side would you take, me or your mother?

#77 Would you relocate for love?

#78 Would you be open to disclosing all your health issues to me all the time?

#79 If you’re having a bad day, would you want me to leave you alone or spend time with you and cheer you up?

#80 What’s more important, sexual chemistry or spending time together?

These relationship questions may seem tricky to your partner at first, but as long as you answer first and help your partner open up, both of you would be able to learn from each other’s answers and develop a better relationship over time.

TAKE NOTE HOWEVER…

• If the couple really loves each other then they won't care if they aren't compatible.
• Just because a couple doesn't have anything in common doesn't mean that they aren't meant for each other.

Warnings

• Don't tell people that, just because they aren't compatible, they aren't meant for each other. That will make them mad.
• Always remember that you can't always rely on a compatibility test when you are in a true relationship.

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