Thursday, November 29, 2012

Honor thy Woman, O man !

  Here is a priceless piece of poetry every man should read and every Woman should cherish! Born from the Ink in  the pen of a psalmist very close to my heart ..Emeka the flaming mind.(Follow him @FlameEmeka) Its dedicated to y'all women. Without you there would be no reason for †ђξ LIONS DEN...Enjoy
    .   Honor thy woman, o man; give to her as much love as thou hath received from God thy maker. So deep are thy feelings in her heart, she does not know why, yet her intentions toward you are pure and oft with mistakes. The Lord thy God hath blessed her, because she is of a good heart. Fashion her thoughts and keep a smile on her face, for nothing soothes her better. Art thou surprised to find a good woman? Foolish thou art to be. For the Lord hath brought her under thy care. What dost thou fear in a woman, that maketh thee to keep thy love from her? Will she not honor thee because thou speaketh of the Maker to her hearing? She shalt stroke thy chest and keep thee warm in the cold nights. Trust her and not in the sense that she will not go wild without thy guidiance, but that she is capable of following thy lead. She will make thy meal and keep thy heart at home. All these because thou showeth her love without compromise. Curse the trials and temptations, for they snatch her faith; but bless the tough times for she cometh with idea and cum. O the swift intuition bestowed on thee, o woman by our God. The Lord, taking out mine rib and crafting thee, o woman to mine very taste. And entrusted me as man, the power to rule over thee. Besides all that I possess as king, thou, o woman beareth and weildeth in power and in deeds all that I lack. I shall love thee, o woman of my tender heart; I will honor thee for thou giveth me solace. I shall confess mine affections into thy very ear and feed thy sight with my very charms. I shall treat thy beauty with care and keep thy body in the warmth of my flame. Thou art curse and blessing to mine soul, but I will keep the Lord's command. So that even as thou will always yearn for me, I also will always be there with thee even when it may seem that I am far off. Come to me always; I will never refuse thee. Come with thy misunderstandings and confusions; I will show thee the light. Thou art woman of my Flaming mind.

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Wednesday, November 28, 2012


We were supposed to talk about the INNER GAME. okay.....
 Let’s get started…
Can you remember the last time you approached an attractive woman you wanted to meet?
Can you remember how just thinking about it sent a SURGE of fear and excitement all throughout your body?
Well guess what?
ALL men feel this same fear when they approach a woman!
The difference between guys that are amazing at approaching women and guys that can’t approach women at all is WHAT THEY DO WITH THIS FEAR.
If you think about it, you really only have two choices: 

(A) You can let it DESTROY you… and your chances of meeting a woman and having a great relationship.

(B). You can let it MOTIVATE you… and increase your chances of meeting the women you desire
What I’m trying to say here is that guys that are GREAT at approaching women and starting up conversations use this fear to their advantage.

Think about it this way…
People spend TONS of money on things like surfing, roller coasters, and jumping out of airplanes.
Isn’t it great that you can get that same rush of excitement by simply going out today and approaching some attractive women?  “Anything that gets your blood racing is probably worth doing.”
So the next time you see an attractive woman you want to meet and you feel that nervous excitement creeping up… ENJOY IT… and make something happen!


Many men will put on an “act” when they approach a woman as an EGO-DEFENSE mechanism.
That way if the woman happens to reject them, they can blame their rejection on the “act” or the “line”… instead of placing the blame where it should be… on themselves.

Now, what these guys FAIL to realize is that the very act of “putting on an act” is often the CAUSE of their rejection in the first place 
It’s no secret that women are very perceptive… especially attractive women who get hit on DOZENS of times each day.
They can smell a fraud from a mile away… and if that fraud is YOU… you’re going down.
Now, here’s a secret that woman know but men don’t:
It takes A LOT more courage to be YOURSELF than it does to approach a woman with an “act” or a “line” that ISN’T you.
And if you do approach a woman as YOURSELF and in a genuine and confident way, you will almost NEVER get rejected, because she will see the courage and confidence behind it.
Now… this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use a great line that you learned somewhere else.
As a matter of fact… you should… especially when you’re first getting started.
But think of the lines and techniques you learn as “training wheels”… and make it your goal to come up with some of your very own techniques that work for YOU and fit your personality.

Another interesting point  is that women are often “programmed” to reject men.
Think about it.

An attractive woman gets hit on by losers day in and day out.
Pretty soon “rejection” becomes an automatic response.
It turns into a screening system… with the initial rejection as a test. Only guys who can GET PAST the initial rejection survive.

Now… not ALL women are like this. But here’s a little secret about those who are:
These women are used to meeting guys who “can’t take the heat”. They meet HUNDREDS of men who “wuss out” to every ONE that “makes the cut.”
And because of this… once you get past her initial rejection, she will see you as a RARE commodity.
To put it simply… YOU ARE IN.
A great example of this took place in the movie “Gone With The Wind”
In it, Scarlet was not being nice to Rhett Butler… but he took it all in good faith… because he KNEW it was just an act… and that deep down she was totally in love with him.
Take this same stance when you meet a woman with “attitude”.
Come from the position that you KNOW what it’s like to be her… and that you know she has to weed out the losers somehow… AND that you know if she opened her eyes she’d fall for you in a second.
Don’t actually voice this to her… but let it shine through in your actions.
Give her a second chance to give you a second chance… and soon YOU… being the RARE find that you are… will be the one in control.

the single most important thing you can do in your life—both for yourself, and when it comes to attracting women—is to become an interesting guy.
The easiest way to do this is to “err on the side of action”.
What that means is to take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way.
If you come to a fork in the road, take it.
If you are deciding whether or not to take a trip, go!
Deciding whether to eat somewhere new or go to your same old favorite spot? Try something new!
The more you do this the more you will enrich your life with experiences… and gain wisdom and knowledge that make women want to know more about you.
And the more experiences you have, the more interesting things you will have to talk about with women… and the more likely you will be to relate to something they have done.
For example, when she says, “That reminds me of a place in Enugu” you can say, “Oh yeah… I know what you mean”.
When she tells you she loves Chinese food you can tell her about that wonderful little place you discovered that day when you decided to drive PAST your favorite spot and find something new.
Remember… we never regret the things we do… only the things we haven’t done.
Start to live this every single day, and you’ll be amazed at just how quickly women notice.

Here’s another newsflash for you: Women HATE to make decisions.

You know how they say that women constantly change their minds about everything?
Well it’s absolutely true.
Women can make decisions… but they don’t like to… which is exactly why women LOVE a man who is decisive.
Decisiveness is a MALE trait. And to a woman, there is nothing more manly than a guy who knows what he wants… and is confident enough to BE A MAN and lead her to do things and go places he knows are fun and exciting.
When a man does this, it gives her a sense of stability and security that she longs for… and puts her at ease by taking the burden of making a decision off of her plate.
Unfortunately, many men are AFRAID to do this, because they fear that a woman won’t be happy with the decisions they make.
We’ve all made this mistake at one time or another… and gotten into one of those, “I don’t know… what do YOU want to do?” conversations that woman HATE.
But … in romance, as in dancing, a man must lead with a firm and gentle hand.
Remember this every time you are talking to a woman from now on.
If you’re going somewhere to eat, tell her you know of a great such and such restaurant. If she objects, don’t say, “Well where do you want to go?” …simply suggest another one.
Your decisiveness—which translates into “manliness”—plays a HUGE role in whether or not SHE decides to sleep with you. So give her what she wants by gently leading her where you want.

She’ll thank you for it.

One of the biggest differences between guys who are REALLY successful with women and guys who are just moderately successful is that the “pros” are ALWAYS willing to “walk away”.
People don’t value what they don’t have to work for… and if a woman knows that you will be around and willing no matter what she does, then SHE has the power and control.
This “exchange of power” starts from the moment you meet a woman.
A woman can tell as soon as you walk up to her whether you “care” or not if it goes well.
If she can sense that you “only have eyes for her”, she won’t have any reason to try to impress you… because she knows that you have already made up your mind about her…
On the other hand, if she senses that you are just out having fun and will leave in an instant if she says or does something you don’t agree with, she will be on her best behavior to try and impress YOU and keep you around.
It’s ironic in how it works… but it’s absolutely true.
So the key here is to avoid the “scarcity” mindset at all costs.
Know that there is ALWAYS another hot woman waiting around the corner… and be selective when deciding to stick with the one you’re with, or move on.
When you really internalize the attitude that YOU are the selector, it will come across in everything you do… AND… cause every woman you meet to WORK to hold your attention.

A very simple way to let your woman know that she is in the hands of a real man is to be chivalrous when you are out to town.
Hold doors open for her, and always be sure to walk on the outside of the curb.
If some shady people come across your path, position yourself between them and her.
This is all simple stuff… but you’d be surprised at how many men forget it completely.
But this is… of course… good news for you because guys who DO remember this stuff and practice it are handsomely rewarded

Did you know that women HATE when a guy they are attracted to DOESN’T make a move?
Yes… in some cases you can use this to build anticipation and make her want you more… but eventually you MUST take the initiative and make something happen.
When a woman is really into a guy and he doesn’t try to sleep with her, it makes her feel LESS ATTRACTIVE.... believe me, I've been a victim, unfortunately now that i know whats up....shes married (hmm C.J)
She also worries that YOU might not have the confidence to make a move… which makes YOU look less attractive.
Combine these two things together and the result is not good.
Remember this:
She IS NOT going to do it for you. “If YOU take off a woman’s pants, she feels sexy… but if she has to take off HER OWN pants, she feels like a slut.”

Which option do you think a woman would rather take?
Now… just because you make a move does not mean she’s going to give in and sleep with you on the first night.
But she definitely wants you to TRY.
So don’t let her down. Don’t be a wuss. Make a move!

unique system for setting up dates with women.
The best part about it is how i actually get women to ASK ME OUT when i am talking to them on the phone!
Here’s how i do it:

simply call a woman up and talk in detail about an interesting and exciting thing am planning on doing.
A few examples are picnicking at the local beach..... bumper car riding at the park..., going to happy hour (8 hours) with friends, and going to a “secret” hang out where they make the best roasted fish.
Somewhere along the way the woman will say, “That sounds fun”… or even better… “Can I come?” or “I want to go!”
And what kind of man would I be to turn her down?
Another great thing about this system is what I do if they DON’T hint or ask to join me. I simply say “bye” and that I'll talk to them later.
This seems simple… but in reality it’s VITALLY important.
Because i didn’t end the conversation with a “next step”… like “I’ll call you later this week” or “call me when you want to hang out”… either person can call the other WITHOUT giving up their power.
Think about it…
If at the end of a phone call you say to a woman, “Call me this Saturday” and she DOESN’T call… then you are giving up your power if you call her again.
Along those same lines, if you end a call with “I’ll give YOU a call on Saturday”, she can’t call you until you call her first without giving up HER power.
On the other hand, if you end the call with “I’ll talk to you later” and later that night she happens to feel like getting together, she is totally free to call you up.
And… if you end a call with “I’ll talk to you later” you can call her again whenever YOU feel like it without looking like a wuss.
And if the next time you call her it doesn’t go anywhere… but you end that call without a “next step”… you can call her again whenever you want.
Here’s the bottom line:
If you end every call like this, you can KEEP ON calling her until she asks you out.
But based on my experiences, after you call a woman a couple of times and tell her about interesting things you are doing, even if she can’t meet with you that day, she will call you when she can… because she’ll assume you’ll be doing something fun.

In fact, if you just remember these two keys to phone conversations, you’ll be amazed at how often women CALL YOU UP to ask you to hang out.
Here they are again:
1. Talk about interesting things you are doing

2. Don’t end the call with a “next step”… simply say “I’ll talk to you later”.
Be sure to write these down somewhere. This is important stuff.
A Few Other Quick Points…
Another great point is to tell a woman what to wear when she is meeting up with you.
I do this myself, and I highly recommend it. Women find it to be a huge turn on… and it will get her thinking about you all day! I also like to take a woman on a date where they will get dirty or sweaty so I can invite them back to my place to take a shower. I love it!

These are a few real world techniques i just shared with you. I hope you enjoyed them… and most of all… I hope you USE THEM.
Be sure to read my articles several times till it enters
There are a lot of little subtleties in this post that are very important… and while I tried to point them all out in this post, it would definitely be worth your time to read it again and take some notes. … it will make your life a whole lot easier.

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Sunday, November 25, 2012


            Okay, am sorry if I kept you waiting. This topic wil be quite lengthy and you might want to take notes, so i suggest you have your jotter handy.  
What we will disuss today is something quite familiar to all of us. Something that stands in the way of our success with women.
           Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all of
us men who have started on the path to success
with women and dating...

Fear of rejection.
Fear of embarrassment.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of what a woman might do if we start
talking to her.

Fear of what other guys would think if they
knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of what WOMEN would think if they knew
that we needed help with women.

Fear of admitting that we're AFRAID.
...and about 100 others.
But, what exactly IS fear?
And why is it such a problem?
And what can be done to overcome it?

Well, let's start with what fear is, then we'll
move on to some techniques to get past it.
I once heard a great definition of FEAR:
False Evidence Appearing Real
In other words, the things that you feel fear
about are usually not real. It's usually just
"false evidence".
You also might think back about the last 10
things you felt fear around. Now, ask yourself...
Did any of those things come true?
In most of the cases, you'll find that the fear
did NOT come true.
I heard once that something like 98% of the
things that people fear and worry about never come
I've found this to be true in my own life as
Fear is an emotion, or an emotional state. It's
an amazing and wonderful emotion... because it can
help save your life in certain situations.
A hundred thousand years ago, when we were
running around in the desert, we needed powerful,
motivating emotions like FEAR to save our lives.
When you feel fear (especially if it's a
response to real physical danger) you'll notice
that some AMAZING things happen. Your eyes open up
wider so you can see better, adrenaline pumps into
your body, your heart beats fast to deliver blood
to your muscles, and all kinds of other wondrous
processes are triggered.
The PROBLEM is when we experience fear at times
when there IS NO real physical danger.
We humans are amazing. We can just IMAGINE
things and feel fear in response to the mental
And I'm sure you know exactly what the problem
is with this... it can IMMOBILIZE you at critical
Have you ever seen a woman that you'd like to
meet, but you just couldn't walk over and start
talking to her?
yes, it's happened to me,too.
What was the problem?
Usually, it's fear.
Fear that she'll get upset, or fear that she'll
have a boyfriend... or fear that she'll embarrass
you in front of others... or fear that you won't
know what to say to her...
And, of course, when you feel that strong fear
emotion, it just FREEZES you and makes you totally
So, what's the solution?
Well, there are several ways to overcome fears.
One way is to do the thing you fear. If you do
the thing that you fear, and see that nothing bad
will happen, then you eventually overcome it and
become programmed not to feel fear anymore.
For instance, if you're afraid to approach
women and talk to them, just DO IT. Go talk to 50
women in the next week and see that most of them
will respond positively to you (if you don't act
like a dumb-ass, that is).
Other ways to overcome your fear when it comes
to approaching women include:
- Understanding the dynamics of male/female
interactions better than most women do.
- Learning how to approach women using the same
types of words and body language that the masters
- Learning how to use props or other devices to
get a woman's attention without having to
"approach" her directly.
- Learning mental techniques to overcome fears or
"reset" your emotions instantly, anytime you'd
like (this is one of my personal favorites).
- Using mental preparation to be completely ready
for anything that might happen.
...and there are several others.
I have spent a lot of time in my own personal
life learning about and figuring out how to get
past fears and other psychological obstacles with
I learned most of my best ideas about how to
meet women from guys who were successful with
women, and I found that they all did basically the
SAME things... even though they didn't "realize"
that they were doing anything at all, for the most

   Meeting and hanging out with "naturals" is one
of the very best things you can do to learn how to
be more successful with women (the other is to
study the materials that I've put together at the
same time, so you can have the advantage of having
it all explained to you).

   Now, about approaching women in open places or "a pub."
   I think the issue that you're PROBABLY dealing
with is REJECTION.

   You're probably afraid to go start a
conversation because you don't want to be rejected
by women.

   Once you can face this reality and start to
deal with it, then you'll start making more

   My experience starting conversations with
groups of more than one woman in bars is that your
ENERGY makes a huge impact.

   In other words, if you walk over and act
nervous and stilted, the women will get nervous
and act cold.

   If you act like you're having a good time,.... you
think they look like some fun people to talk to,
and you start on that note, they'll be FAR more
likely to be friendly and open.

   Now, I know a lot of guys who are GREAT at
meeting women in bars. Some of them use rather
interesting and complex techniques that range from
"pick up lines" all the way to magic and psychic

   Try this:
   Pick up your drink, walk over to the table,
think of the funniest moment of your life so you
have a smile on your face and say, "What, are you
girls shy or something?"

   When they say, "NO, why?"
   Answer, "Because I've been sitting at the next
table for at least a half hour and you haven't
come over to say hi to me!"

   I have about 3 different friends who all use
variations of this opening... and it works great
(if you're having fun when you say it).

   You need to get over your FEAR. Once you stop
caring what women think of you, then you'll make a
LOT more progress.
Too many guys have this ideal or fantasy in
their minds of "being equals" with a woman, etc.

   Ain't gonna happen.
   Attractive women aren't interested in an EQUAL.
   They're NEVER attracted to guys who are EQUALS.
   Attractive women want a guy who is a LEADER.
One who takes charge, keeps them on their toes, is
unpredictable, Cocky & Funny, etc.
I have a little secret that I'm going to share
with you. But lean in close, so I can whisper. I
don't want anyone else to hear...

   I actually have guy friends who are REALLY good
with women who take women to dinner, buy them
drinks, etc. when they first meet.

   What!, you say?
   How can this be?
   Well, the big difference is that these guys are
NOT doing this stuff to GET THE WOMAN'S APPROVAL.

   And since EVERYTHING ELSE they're doing clearly
communicates the RIGHT things, they can actually
do whatever they want, and still not screw things

   In other words, if you don't understand how
ATTRACTION works, and you don't know how to
communicate with women in a way that makes them
feel it for YOU, then buying drinks and dinner,
and giving compliments, and all the other things
most guys do will only BACKFIRE.

   On the other hand, once you totally understand
how and why women feel ATTRACTION, you can do
whatever you want.

   And later on, when you find a girl that you
really like and you're enjoying a relationship, of
course it's nice to do nice things for her.

   Just remember, be very careful.
   It's easy to be lured back to the dark side...
and to try to get women to like you by paying for
things and taking them places... which it will
never do.
 When it comes to women and ATTRACTION the
normal rules don't apply anymore. This area of
life is VERY DIFFERENT from other areas, and when
you try to apply ideas and techniques from other
areas (like conversation skills), you'll find that
they often don't work AT ALL.

   You can walk into a room full of 100 people,
and start walking around meeting them.

   For 99 of them, walking over and saying, "Hi,
how do you know everyone here?" and "So, what do
you do?" will work just fine.

   But when you find that ONE attractive woman in
the room that you'd like to meet, and you want to
start an interaction that leads to ATTRACTION, you
must do something TOTALLY different.

   It's more than the words you say... it's a
total understanding of what that woman is looking
for on a deep, primal, subconscious level... and
then to BE that man.
A woman will sometimes make
plans with a guy just to avoid saying "no" in the

   But later, she'll flake or cancel because
"something came up"... when she never intended to
show up in the first place.

   If women are flaking out on you a lot, it's
probably something that YOU'RE doing up front.

   In any case, try this:
   Next time you're talking to a woman on the
phone and making plans to get together
say, "Let me ask you a quick question. Do you ever
flake out on things?"

   She'll say, "Not usually" (or some other non-
committal thing, most likely).

   Say, "Good, because it's one of those things
that I really can't deal with... people that can't
keep their word...and there are a lot of flaky
people in this world."

   That might help.
   And if she DOES flake at the last minute, don't
accept it.

   If she calls and says, "Oh, something came
up..." just answer back, "You know, I was just
starting to think you were DIFFERENT from all the
flaky women I've met"...

   Make it clear to women that it is NOT OK to
waste your time and they'll waste it less.

   But, if you act nice and sweet and
accommodating... and you transmit the message that
it's OK to flake because you're a nice guy and
won't care, then it will happen to you all the
 There are two KEY aspects of learning how to be
successful with women and dating:

1) The Inner Game
2) The Outer Game
   The INNER GAME is all about learning how to
THINK and how to manage your thoughts and
emotions. It's also about understanding how and
why attractive women feel that amazing emotion
called ATTRACTION for some men and not for MOST

   The OUTER GAME is all of the techniques, what
to say and such.

   Which is more important?
   Well, they're BOTH important.
   But what I notice is that most guys want to
learn the OUTER GAME first.

   In other words, they want the pick up lines,
the fancy tricks, and other things.

   I can remember when I first started learning
this stuff.

   I had this idea in my mind that if I could
learn how to get women to give me their numbers
that I'd be the MAN.

   Well, I learned that. I can get just about any
woman's phone number in just a few minutes.

   But guess what?
   Once I learned how to get women's phone
numbers, I ran into a much BIGGER issue... the
women usually flaked out on me, didn't show up,

   And the ones that DID show up were difficult.
   Nothing happened.
   I realized that there had to be more.
   And, as it turns out, there is A LOT more, infact.
   The REASON that the "Inner Game" is so
important is that attractive women don't judge you
on your "pick up lines".

   And just because a woman gives you her phone
number or email address DOES NOT mean that she
FEELS anything inside (like ATTRACTION).

   Women don't DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for a

   ATTRACTION is something that happens on its
own, for its own reasons.

   Attraction Isn't A Choice!
   The way to cause women to feel ATTRACTION for
you is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, and
then communicate in a way that makes it happen.
So quit stalking that poor girl, quit procrastinating approaching
her till a tomorrow that we both know will never come. 
make up your mind and make a move today. 
tomorrow we will talk on building the "inner game".

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Friday, November 23, 2012

THE WUSS EFFECT: mistakes men make with women

Some years ago, i was a loser. Simply put. Until I came across people who were willing to help me GET IT! Now am not so bad with women. People have been asking me to describe the whole "wuss" thing.

i have decided to describe that by telling you some of the most dangerous mistakes we make with women. As you read am sure you'll get a hold of the wuss effect.

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy''

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?

Of course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always
seemed to date "jerks", but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here? It's actually very simple, Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT, but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want. 

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You”

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like, but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.


Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work. 

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her for Approval or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them, EVER. Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her.
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and given her cash incentives, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like my friend iyke the pharmacist, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens.

That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak
attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. 
MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested.

This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

Guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast, and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way.

      MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works 4 Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels an intimate attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel intimate attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men, and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language

and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful intimate

attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how.

 MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started, because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money, or guys who are a certain height, or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet,

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful intimate attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

 MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over, Women aren't attracted to Wussies! 

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind, A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating, Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical, everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up, and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman, from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless.

We don't like to ask for help. Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women.

About 9 years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach and get dates with women that I was attracted to. It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night, right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated classy and uptown ladies and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling, like I don't know how to meet women, and I might wind up alone.

I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women....
So now you know.

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