GIRLFRIEND SNATCHING 101 (BANG AND MORAL ANGLE)

Its always good to get feedback, it encourages writers... take a look at this..

"Hi Chris and friends at The Lions Den,

I was thinking you should write an article on how to deal with the boyfriend of a potential girlfriend or crush in social situations.

Imagine the following scenario: You know this girl from work or school. You like her. She likes you. You flirt with each other. The only problem? She has a long term boyfriend. Or alternatively, you meet a girl who has brought her boyfriend with her at a party.

Either way, a social situation arises in which she presents her boyfriend to you (for example at a party to test you, or out of pure coincidence).

How do you handle the boyfriend? How do you demonstrate that you are a more dominant, superior, a better man, and that she would be better off with you?

Hope you consider this!"

>>>Lekan

Hehehehe.... This will be fun ya?..... Simply put this bro is asking how to successfully snatch or steal someones girlfriend. 
Now wait wait ... before you go all holier than thou on him (or me), lets remember that its a free world when it comes to dating and relationships. you cant stop or judge a man for trying. 

        However, is this possible to do?... Sure. Is it something you can consistently pull off? ... well, let's just say.. count whatever your normal success rate is at picking up, and reduce that a little bit because now you're trying to out-compete the girl's boyfriend; however, if you can pull this off with a girl who wants you to steal her from her man (we'll talk about these girls and why they want this in a bit), in this case you can actually achieve a higher degree of consistency at snatching... assuming you handle logistics properly.

But before we discuss doing this, let's talk a little about the scenario itself, and any potential moral implications... because I don't have fun making good people cry, and I hope you don't either.
And that brings us to the Moral Angle.

IS IT RIGHT OR.....
My general stance on sleeping with "attached" women.
there is ALWAYS going to be SOME man who's going to be upset that you slept with some woman if he finds out about it. He might be a boyfriend; he might be a husband; he might be a guy in her friend zone who's been "working on her" for weeks or months or years now; he might be a guy who's taken her on three dates; he might be her friend with benefits who wants the relationship to be something more. He might be her ex-boyfriend or ex-husband.
Someone, somewhere, has called dibs on her... and he's going to be furious that you slept with "his" woman.
              However, usually, if a woman is sleeping with you... she doesn't see herself as HIS woman. She views herself as "A" woman... but as to whom she "belongs", her opinion is generally, "I belong to ME, and I will do whatever I want with whomever I want to do it."
Obviously, there's a bit of a disconnect, then, between what SHE thinks she's allowed to do with herself, what HE thinks she's allowed to do with herself... and what YOU think she's allowed to do with herself (and with you)... i hope i am communicating.
And you're going to have to choose whom you're teaming up with: this girl who wants to sleep with you, or this guy who wants her not to.
 

AVOIDING REGRETS

If you are a sexy man, good at turning women on and creating sexual tension, of course any woman who sleeps with you is going to want to sleep with you, then and there in the moment.
If she didn't want to right then, she wouldn't do it.
If you're aiming to be morally responsible, however, the question you ought to be asking yourself is, "How is she going to feel about having slept with me later on down the line?"
Almost every girl who's ever found out about an affair says the same thing to her partner: "It was a mistake. I never should have done it."
Yet, many times this is said without it being meant (or, occasionally, the woman will just spitefully say, "Yes, I did it - and I'm GLAD I did it!").
If she's going to be looking back on her night with you and smiling to herself, feeling a bit lighter on her feet, a bit happier in her heart, and a bit more relieved in her loins, you've done a good thing for her.
However, if she's going to be blaming herself, cursing herself, and sorry she did it, that's when you put the brakes on sleeping with a girl in any circumstance, attached or not. In this case, if she's going to feel bad about herself for sleeping with you because she genuinely loves her guy, or because her identity is as a "good girl" and this causes her an inordinate amount of cognitive dissonance, it's better to scrub the lay and throw her back into the pond.
How do you recognize attached women who are going to regret sleeping with you later? Across the board, they:

• Are sexually inexperienced (experienced women who stray from monogamous relationships simply aren't bothered by it - if they are, they don't let it happen)
  
• Are not very sexual women (no sexy smiles, eye contact, heavy flirtation, seductive behavior, etc.)
  
• Are genuinely in love with their boyfriends (usually in the first six months to a year of their relationships... even inexperienced girls past a year, if they are sleeping with you, usually are doing this because they've gotten an "itch" and don't feel bad about it)
  
• Are putting up a wall of resistance to sex when you try to escalate physically and take them to bed
  

In other words, if she's young and inexperienced and clearly loves her boyfriend and is giving you a mountain of resistance to sleeping with you, let her go. If she's older though... or more experienced with men... or not so in-love with her man anymore... or dripping with carnal sensuality or lust... or easy to get in bed... she's not going to regret it.
A rule of thumb for assessing whether to proceed with an attached girl: if you hit a huge wall trying to move things forward with her, and she isn't overly sexy or sensual, and clearly is young and inexperienced, it's best to call it off, even if you know you could get it, because she'll end up having a hard time and going through some identity-level difficulties not long after.
Otherwise, though, she knows what she's doing, and if she doesn't get it from you, she's going to get it from someone else (and, the way it typically works with women who sleep with other men while in relationships, she's probably going to be getting it from you AND someone else)

Karma

There are two kinds of "karma", I believe:

1. Guilty karma
2. Behavioral karma

The first is what you get when you do something you feel bad about. You start obsessing about it, becoming afraid of being found out about having done it, and end up sabotaging your own life from guilt - karma, they say.
The second is what you get if you behave in a certain antisocial way that gains you some advantages, at other (usually long-term) costs. Extreme psychopaths are a good example of this kind of "karma" - they're very, very good at maximizing their short-term outcomes... you will never meet anyone better at getting the best possible short-term outcome as a psychopath (basically, someone who is unable to feel the emotions of others, and thus views other people completely without a shred of empathy, simply as objects to be used to best ability for his own benefit). The tradeoff for a psychopath though is that he's terrible at planning for the long-term and unable to properly consider long-term consequences of his actions - it's why he's so good at the short-term; short-term is his sole focus, unlike those of us trying to juggle the here-and-now with what lies ahead. As a result, psychopaths have frequent blowups and falling outs in their relationships long-term... again, something some might call karma.
However, these are two very different kinds of "karma": one comes from guilt, which is based on conscience; the other comes from the consequences of one's same actions that generated the benefit. karma is supposed to "punish" him for - for instance, long-term negative effects of positive short-term outcomes (spend your money on a new laptop today and feel great; have no money for food the whole next month and go hungry).
Assuming you have some measure of empathy, the kind of karma that poses the biggest threat to you here is that of guilt; so, if you feel guilty about sleeping with an attached woman, don't do it.


Personally, I feel no guilt if the woman clearly wants it and has no problems with it. I don't know the guy, nor why one man is not enough for her; I don't know the nature of their relationship, any "arrangements" they might have, or anything else, nor do I care to know. If I spent too much time trying to guess what a hundred different people might think about a girl and I sleeping together and if any of them would be hurt or offended or whatnot, I'd go crazy before I ever slept with anyone.

However, if I know the girl is going to feel bad about sex with me, that's one I cannot stand. I've had a few women I have inadvertently hurt - not girls with boyfriends, but girls who simply had the wrong expectations about sex with me, and/or I had not done a good enough job of setting the right ones for this. Those still weigh on my conscience, and believe it or not, have come back to bite me again through my own guilt-altered behavior. I'd advise you to avoid at all costs anything that might hurt a girl if you can do it, even if purely for your own selfish good (though hopefully for hers, too).

Whether due to your own guilty conscience or, in the case where you are lacking in the empathy department, your short-term-only focus on leading your life, karma's a bitch.
And she doesn't like being ignored.
So keep an eye on her, and try not to make her angry.


THE ART OF STEALING
The first thing to realize about women you steal from under the boyfriend's nose: they know exactly what they are doing, and they get off on having you cuckold their men.
It took me a while to realize it. I cut my teeth at Indulge bar around a girl like this, and nearly stole her right in front of her boyfriend, but backed off when I saw how hurt and angry he was and assumed she was probably just too drunk and not being herself.
Later, after much more interaction with women like this, I realized she knew what she'd been doing.
Why do women enjoy letting other men cuckold their men with them, and how do you steal a girl like this when she presents herself to you?

Screening, and Power Plays

About six months after I got a Job, I met an incredibly spunky, sexy young (but older than me)  girl, with whom I had a very good vibe going on. We traded numbers; and she invited me out to a pool get together of sorts a week or two later.
I showed up, and it was her, her best friend, the best friend's boyfriend... and her boyfriend.
I was flummoxed (don't bother checking) and disappointed. Also, somewhat stumped. Here was this girl I'd met, a total wild, crazy sexpot, and... there was her mild-mannered boyfriend.
Glasses.
Sweater-vest.
Young, preppy haircut.
Real warm, friendly, nice guy demeanor.
Turned out she was living in his house, and driving a car he'd bought her.
All right, that's just weird, I thought. I don't know what the deal is with this.
I hadn't been expecting it, so I sort of backed off. I ended up making friends with the other couple, and learned from them later that the girl I'd met used to always introduce men she'd met to her boyfriend before she slept with them...(see amebo)  and then sleep with those men immediately after.
Whoops!; I'd botched it. I had kind of, sort of, felt like that might be what was going on... but it was just so strange and bizarre for early 2009 me. I wrote it off and said, "Nah... my read's gotta be wrong. That'd just be weird."

Of course, as I started hanging out with that other couple, the girl, who'd initially been rather cold to me,(cuz her man was there perhaps) started heating up.
Then up, and up.
I debated about whether to sleep with this friend of the class sexpot, but I had a girlfriend staying at my place temporarily. It got to the point that we'd be out at a dinner, just the four of us, and the other girl would be reaching across under the table rubbing my feet with hers.
I realized then - and I've seen and confirmed since - that some attached women parade their boyfriends in front of you before moving ahead with you for two reasons:

1. A power play. They simply feel powerful knowing that their boyfriend or husband is right there, right in front of the man they are going to sleep with later, and he probably suspects it, but there is nothing he can do about it. If he accuses them, they'll deny, and act insulted he could even think such a thing, shaming him back into grudging silence. Why do they do this? Usually because the guy was too controlling, and they are "punishing" him by making his worst fear happen, right in front of him. Obviously, the women who do this are pretty vindictive people themselves, too - but they'll be all feminine charms and grace with you. 
2. A screening tool. The other reason women do this? If you can hang with her and her man, and still be cool, and not crack, and still move things forward with her ANYWAY after this, in a cool, seductive way... you're just about the sexiest man she's ever met. Most guys don't have the balls to stay cool and pull this off (like I didn't early on... in fact, I wasn't able to pull this off until late 2008) - they either get moralistic about it, or second-guess themselves, or are intimidated by the fact that the girl has a boyfriend. So all the lesser men screen themselves out, and the girl is just left with the coldest, hardest, most bad boy players there are, who aren't fazed one bit by the boyfriend, and the sex is about 20 times more exciting for her because she knows how hard these guys have been screened and tested... they are the manliest men, with the best genes imaginable. And she cums hard during sex (Relax...am not about to write a romantic novel).
   

So don't think that a girl who's parading her man about with her, then going off and flirting heavily with a bunch of other men in the bar or the party or the nightclub is doing that simply because she's social, or flirty. She knows what she's doing. And so does he... but he's powerless to stop it.

And don't think that a girl who starts touching you and escalating with you when her boyfriend isn't looking has simply fallen prey to your charms... she has, but if it wasn't you, it would've been somebody else. You're good, in that you got her, and not someone else, but you didn't cause her to start looking around for someone to meet in front of her boyfriend... she did that herself.

How to Steal a Girl from Under Her Boyfriend's Nose

So now you know she's not some innocent, easily-swayed and clueless little girl, but rather a sharp, cunning fox, out on the prowl, and knowing exactly what she's doing... and whom she's looking for.
How do you steal a girl like this from her (probably controlling, over-protective, and perhaps unfaithful himself) boyfriend?
Here, there are four (4) keys:

1. Discretion
2. Dominance
3. Focus
4. Logistics

... and here's how they each play out:

1. Discretion: the name of the game here. Remember that as the lover, you are 100% expendable. Threaten to cause an ounce of drama for her, and she will have zero qualms about dissing you to preserve her social standing. That means you must be civil with the boyfriend; you must not create problems; you must not flirt too overtly with her in front of the boyfriend or any friends of hers who are not completely on board with her plans (typically, her closest friends only). Some girls are okay texting with you; some will ask you not to text them, because their boyfriends will see it and check (the further along into full-on rebellion the girl is, the fewer qualms she'll have about you texting her to arrange dates or set up logistics). On the plus side, you can propose things with her fast (but still smooth), because you won't have much time to do this, or much free opportunity, and she recognizes this and will conspire with you to do that (e.g., sneak out back with you, off to the side of the bar, meet by the bathrooms in 5 minutes, etc.).
   
2. Dominance: this is more social dominance than it is physical dominance, or even verbal dominance. That means you know how to deal with it if the boyfriend attempts to tool you, you follow the Law of Least Effort ( Basically means that the person who *appears to put the least amount of effort out, while getting the largest amount of effort returned to him by others, comes across as the most socially powerful. *Note the italics around the word “appears” in that bolded section. We aren’t necessarily talking about the person who is actually, literally trying the least, but rather the person who is able to accomplish the most with the appearance of putting in the least amount of work.
   )in what you do and visibly appear more dominant than he does by comparison. And above all, you're clearly not intimidated by him. If you go overboard, however, and attempt to shame him, mock him, or intimidate him, you will force the girl to defend him so as not to appear to be too openly moving against him, which usually dooms your cause. So don't attack; simply look stronger and better in your own space, and deftly deflect any attempts to belittle you that he throws your way.
   
3. Focus: your focus clearly needs to be on stealing away with her, meeting up with her later, or otherwise finding time to connect with her, soon. It's very okay (and often advisable) to make it a "conspiracy" between the two of you; each of you know the other is playing a role in front of the boyfriend, but behind the scenes, the two of you are working together to try to bring yourselves together without his knowing it as soon as possible. Keep your focus on this, and don't get confused into thinking your focus is to dominate the boyfriend socially, or win over the friend group, or anything like this. Losing focus kills you here, because attached women are looking for focused men who move fast, and their attraction tends to expire fast for any man who doesn't meet these standards.
   
4. Logistics: ... must be handled. You'll find that attached women can often be more down for wild and unconventional sex logistics than many single women will - this is because they have zero considerations of maintaining a "good girl" image with you (obviously, at least for you, they are not "good" girls), because they feel the very real time constraints they are working against (to get you inside of them before the boyfriend starts looking for them), and because the fact that the two of you are uniting in such a delicious conspiracy against the oppressive and stifling boyfriend/husband is so damn exciting for them. Almost anything will do here - bathrooms, cubby holes (nkoro), alleyways. I have a friend who met a girl outside a nightclub, mad at her boyfriend, and immediately pulled her behind his car and had sex with her then and there, not four minutes after meeting her. She then went back into the club to go rejoin her boyfriend, a big smile on her face.
   

... oh, and in case any of this is leaving you freaked out about your OWN girlfriend(s), would write something soon to help you be on your guard:

Being the Other Guy

Personally, I prefer not to ask women about their relationship statuses. If she has a boyfriend, I'd rather not know. All I want to know is that she and I are two people who like each other, so let's go do what we'd like to do with one another. If she has a man she's promising exclusivity to... that's her business.

So, I do my best to stay off the topic of current relationships with girls. Past relationships are okay if you do them right... but be careful of digging too much here, because some girls will start feeling like they need to "confess" their currents to you if you do. Better simply not to know - then when you get the phone call from the hurt or angry partner or spouse later (as I have, at times), you can honestly tell the guy, "Hey man, I had no idea. She seemed cool to me."

Wrapping up, is this okay? Is it okay to sleep with an attached girl?
Everyone's of his own mind about this. I personally don't like sleeping with women if I meet their boyfriends or husbands and the guy is a legitimately nice guy (like that sweater-vest guy the girl was seeing... from what the couple she introduced me to told me, her boyfriend had rescued her out of poverty and helped her kick a drug problem - doesn't pay to be a white knight, fellas. I think he found out years later about the gangbangs she was having with her ex and his drugheads in Lagos, kicked her out, and took the car back, if memory serves).
But if the guy's clearly controlling and not a nice guy? If it's what the girl wants, I don't have qualms with it these days.
Just make sure she's not innocent and head-over-heels with him - but this is pretty easy to tell. Don't ruin something pure - if it's already ruined though, and she's just looking for some release, this is a gray area, but it's one where I feel it's pretty safe saying you're probably okay from a moral standpoint of just going for it. She wants it; she's going to get it somewhere; and the guy knows it's going on, and probably knows he drove her to it, too.
But if you have a choice? Just don't even ask her status. If you don't ask, you don't have to steal a girl from under her boyfriend's nose... then you're just picking up a girl who likes you, and the fact that some jealous guy is over there burning daggers into the back of your skull is irrelevant; you like her, she likes you, and that's about as pure as love, sex, and romance get.

And i'll talk to you again soon... (i hope)

Your friend 
LEONHART 

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HOW TO CHEAT AND NOT GET CAUGHT (MEN ONLY: READERS DISCRETION ADVISED).

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Obviously I don’t think cheating on a girlfriend is morally right, and I think it’s wrong to bang your girl without a condom and then creep without it too because you’re exposing her to diseases that could create an uncomfortable situation. However am gonna justify this post by saying this. Sometimes it’s best to know what to do in order not to lose something special when you can’t avoid the habit of creeping. When I want to cheat, I keep it locked down so tightly that it would take a lottery chance event to get me. The result is I get to fulfill my perverse needs while having something stable with a girl that I care for. That’s a win-win… unless she finds out. Here’s what to do to make sure that doesn’t happen:

1. Get started on the right foot.  

Do not get into that pattern where you must talk on the phone every day. To accomplish this you’ll have to state that you need your “space” early in the relationship that you don’t want it to get into that friendly boring zone where you’re talking about what time you woke up and what you had for lunch. She’ll honor your request but slip and send frequent text messages, which is fine—it’s easy to creep with another girl when all you got to do is send texts.

Also, if you want to actually have the ability to cheat, you need time not only to meet other girls but to take them out on dates. This means you want to get into no more than a twice-a-week date pattern with your girl, one date on the weekday and one on the weekend. Resist her efforts to see you more by saying again you need space and are the loner type that feels smothered easily.

2. Don’t give her access to your phone or computer.

  Remember This is how 90% of guys get caught cheating. They left their phone laying around, unlocked, and the girl finds incriminating text messages. It’s easy to brush off female numbers in your phone as old, but not a text message stamped yesterday where you confirmed fresh plans. Either delete the text messages manually before you see her or lock your keypad. Fail to do either and you will get busted eventually, guaranteed. Girls are savvy with cell phones and only need sixty seconds to sift through your messages or call history.

I’ve caught two girls messing around with my phone. Once I went to go wash my cock after sex and came back with my phone on the floor instead of the nightstand. The other time I spent the night at this half caste girl’s house and woke up in the morning with all my clothes gone. I walked around her place dazed and naked, wondering if I just got got, and found her sitting on the bathroom toilet going through all my shit.

For your computer, log off your email/facebook account when you know she’s coming over and then launch a different browser that you never use. While it would take time for her to sift through emails if you slip to the bathroom, girls go straight to the Sent folder to gather evidence. I’m certain that the female species plays dumb with gadgets and computers on purpose so that we leave our things laying around. Also lock down anything else that could get you in trouble like Skype (call history) and the secret dating apps you operate.

3. Don’t create a lasting impression with her friends. 

While some guys will argue that a way to win a girl is through her friends, I only find that to be the case with very young girls around college age—once she’s in her mid-20′s she doesn’t seek as much approval from her friends as before. If you’re meeting her friends for the first time then show up in an outfit you never wear and also a slightly different hair or beard configuration. You don’t need to wear a disguise but appear a little differently.

The reason is that her friends are spies and when you’re creeping they may spot you and then immediately rat you out. By looking different and not making an impression, the goal here is they don’t recognize you when you’re creeping. It also offers a layer of plausible deniability because you can say that you were experimenting with a new look when you met them and they probably confused you for someone else. Furiously deny it was you that they witnessed making out with another girl. You have no other choice, not matter how obvious it was you. Be like the United States government where photo or video evidence is required to pursue torture charges.

4. Do not mix dating venues. 

You want to have two parallel sets of venues to minimize cross contamination. If you take your girlfriend to the same bar as your creep girls, a bartender or regular may accidentally out you, or tip her off while you’re in the bathroom. We all know those don’t-date-him girls whose life mission it is to warn other women of cheating men. 

 

5. Don’t frequent her regular spots.  

This doesn’t need to be said but there is an exception: when one of her spots is a place you can get laid like a champ. Ajoihe!!!

In Enugu there is a club where, as of this writing, I have a 44% bang rate. This means every four times I went, I can bang or meet a Bangable girl. There’s no way I’m going to stop going to a place like that, but the success I had at this club could easily lead to my doom if I’ve truly decided to change.

6. Pick a friend who will be your go-to excuse for why you can’t hang out with her. 

 It’s best she has met the friend but I’ve invented guys as well. Be consistent and have him be the excuse whenever you didn’t want to hang with her. Examples:

“Friday I’m hanging out with Steve but how about Saturday?”

“Steve wants us to do fish night on Tuesday and to talk about some girl problems so let’s do movie night on Wednesday.”

“Sorry I didn’t answer I actually hung out with Steve in this lame club and didn’t hear the phone ring.”

Never allow her to join you with Steve (go out with u two), explaining that he doesn’t like being the third wheel. Add that you need guy time to do some male bonding, to talk trash and just be men.

What’s going to happen is she will develop a deep hatred for Steve because she thinks he’s keeping you away from her. That’s not a bad thing because Steve will be the channel for her hate. Feel free to milk this by making it seem like Steve has an influence over you since he’s “cool” and “fun.” Many of my friends in Nigeria (Enugu). would use me as their Steve and I can tell you that a dozen girls still hate my guts because of it.

7. Be mindful of when you blow your load. 

If your girl expects a gallon of cum on her face when you bang, and then this one time have a trickle or droplets because you just got done banging another girl, warning signs are going to go off in her head. Therefore regulate your horniness and sperm quantity. If you know it takes two days to recharge after a lengthy sex episode, then allow that much time before banging a mistress and then your girl. This is why when it comes to the weekend I always try to put my girl on Friday. If I bang another girl on Friday then I will show up in her bedroom on Saturday already sated and she will pick up on it.

8. Try to bang your mistresses at other places. 

You don’t want her to leave something behind like a bobby pin, scarf, hair strands, bangle, unique perfume scent, or blood. (Etc.). Also realize that a girl can tell the difference between a strand of her hair that is hers and one that is only 5% different. If you have to bang a mistress in your place then commit yourself to a CSI-like  clean sweep afterwards. Do not get lazy at this step. View your room from many different angles, get on your knees, and go sniffing around everywhere. Flush used condoms down the toilet and put the wrappers deep in the kitchen trash can. 

9. Construct and rehearse your alibi. 

Anticipate what questions your girl is going to ask and have simple, quick answers to them. For example you went out on a Thursday night after telling your girl you’d stay in. You met a girl in the club who bit the hell out of your neck in the heat of passion. You brought her home and she turned out to be a flooder (squirter/wet queen) and the sheets were soaked.  

Let’s focus on each aspect of the situation. If she asks why you didn’t answer the phone or call her back, say you wanted to stay in but Steve called and begged you to go out because he’s trying to get this girl that has an ugly friend. So for most of the night you had to talk to a fatty, but you wished you were with her instead. The club was so loud that you didn’t see the call and by the time you noticed it was too late to call back.

Second, the scratch on the back of your neck happened when you were in the kitchen. You left a cabinet door open and when you reached down to pick something up off the floor, you come back up right under it and caught your neck. Of course you will wear a collared shirt to cover it up and prevent her discovery, but if you never wear collared shirts around her then she will be even more suspicious if she catches the scratch. If you have a sister and can borrow her makeup this may also be a good play, or just go to the nearest department store’s cosmetic counter and pick up some foundation. I’m not joking.

Third, the sheets. In America you can do a wash and dry load quickly, but in countries like mine and in areas without a dryer it has to hang for quite a while. If she insists on coming in during the late afternoon before it dries, say how mad you are at the maid for lazying around and always washing on the wrong days.

You’ve closed the gaps. Otherwise it would be a very damaging situation. While subconsciously she will know something is going on and be moody and testy, consciously she will accept your airtight alibi and things can proceed as normal.

10. Don’t let guilt change your routine. 

After a successful creep you’ll probably feel guilty for cheating on such a nice girl. You’ll then feel compelled to make a surprise phone call, be more affectionate or loving, or even buy her something small like a chocolate truffle or rose. Resist this urge and proceed with your normal routine because girls can sense when you’re doing something out of the ordinary. She’ll know that you are trying to relieve your guilt, and while she may not automatically assume it’s from cheating, she’ll know you did something wrong.

When you get good at cheating, you also get good at identifying cheating along with the precursors of cheating, like when she meets another guy that she’s attracted to. In due time you’ll be able to piece together storylines. For example let’s take a look at this following hypothetical situation:

Friday: Your Igbo girl texts you from a party, says there are “a lot of Manchies.” Stays there late.

Saturday: You send her a text at 6pm but she waits three hours before replying that she was “sleeping.”

Following Friday: She says she’ll be busy Saturday, but doesn’t say with whom. Even though it’s easier to say “I’m going out with Stevie,” some girls have trouble lying.

Saturday night: She says she is free.

Likely Story: She met a Manchie on the first Friday and he asked her on a date or drink early Saturday evening. There he told her to keep the following Saturday free but eventually flaked on (disappointed) her. This means she’s actively looking for better. Either you step up and offer more of her core needs (without being needy about it of course), or you can say fuck it, get a couple more bangs, and move onto another girl.

Besides concrete evidence like a text message, email, or hair clip, your girl will never have 100% solid proof against you. By being an accomplished liar, avoiding sloppy moves, and covering holes that develop, it becomes very close to impossible for her to catch you. All this so you can have your cake and eat it too. I think it’s a good way for a man to live, but if your ass gets caught don’t blame me.

uh uh... closing my eyes

And I’ll talk to you again soon

Your friend…

 …..Leonhart

TRUTH LOST IN A BAG OF LIES....(RESPONSE TO WOMAN)

Am going to write this just to have fun... so if it stirs anger of hate or rash comments, then maybe i can call it an article of truth.. (because the truth is always bitter).

 

We often make mistakes of saying "if he loves me... he'll accept me the way I am".

They oft' forget that maybe, just maybe..the "way you are" isn't the right way you should be. Perhaps a little adjustment or change here and there. 

 

You wear make-up because you know u need to brush up on what is already available even though God in his infinite wisdom created you without them. 

Why do I say this... I will explain.

It is true, not all relationships are meant to be. Some are meant to lead to marriage. Some are for experience, some just to soothe a lonely spirit or for companionship, Some for Sex. Some last just a long distance and crash along the way when you discover you can do better... etc let's not broaden this comment more than it will be. 

Now, a man is a complex personality. But before I describe him I will say something about women. 

God created woman, we all accept that. as both helper and companion. And a woman depends on man for almost everything including her feelings. 

However some women who believe they are independent of men... still go ahead to date men and string them along only for material and sexual gratification and when I say "men" I mean the plural form i.e they don't keep one. These same women,when they find a man who they feel meets their qualifications... begin to grumble when they discover the man was "just passing by" if you know what I mean. 

Perhaps the man can see beyond their new pretend behavior of content. Why are they trying to change from their former slutty ways when they meet an Alpha Male....Why don't they stay there and wait for the man to "Love them as they are". 

Adjustments are necessary in new situations. 

A man is a polygamous entity in nature... hate it or love it. Finding and keeping one exclusively is not entirely impossible but requires a bit of factors working in your favor. 

1. Love (obviously the greatest but weak on it own)

2. Upbringing (way and manner he was trained )

3. Religion (how close to God he is)

4. Environment (Where he finds himself or how exposed he is).

5. Mindset/Conscience (How he sees women)

6. You (your effort as a woman).

Let me stop there for now but notice that YOU "the woman" are only number six (6) on the list. And not 1, 2 or 3. Not even top 5

When looking for  a serious relationship many things must be put in check. 

If you know you're a weakling that cannot stand the heat of competition or fight for their man as some women would do in a heartbeat then you should be ready for a long life of search, misery, heartbreak and perhaps when it all ends...settling with someone you would only manage or lie to yourself that u love because you're tired of the wait. (you'll end up banging that your neighbors hot husband that screams and yells at her like a dog still....yes because HE is THE MAN...and not your docile remote controlled toy you call husband). 

You meet a bunch of Nice guys that are ready to lie on the ground for you to step on them and pass but you want that "bad boy" that all the wizened up cats and vixens use to keep their libido's sated (satisfied) . Why? Because you want to be able to stand proud and say...that's my man.  

And you think you'll keep him by doing his laundry and fucking him. (just like a million other girls will also do if given the chance). And u believe when you do those things for him it makes you special... you even remind him how you do chores for him like it's a very special thing? (don't do it now...someone else will...gladly..with "Jara" like my people say).

Before you meet a man for a new relationship, remember that there are ticks and lice (old flames and stubborn habits). 

You.... that is his new ringworm... in your bid for exclusive attention you forget that he has to treat his other afflictions (which of course he won't admit to having).... While you are around ensure you use a triple action drug while washing his head so it will kill off both known and unknown.

 

What am I saying... don't assume you have come to stay and get comfortable. Remember that Old flames not well quenched can rekindle at the blow of air. And those old flames are not happy that someone is eating where they tilled and toiled. They would try to accommodate the knowledge of your existence but that don't mean they're not waiting (if not plotting) for u to fail as they did...and take advantage of the Window. (time b/w breakup and getting a new love).

Now I must correct some misconceptions in words women use: (Note that they are mostly true...but in this case... I am going to use my responses as those exceptions to every rule)

1.  If a man wants you nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't nothing can make him stay. 

(sounds good to those suffering or recovering from heartache/heartbreak... often used by psychologists to make one feel better.)

 

Even if a man truly loves you, there's a lot that can keep him away no matter how hard he fights. Incompatible lovers tend to go downstream not because the love failed to exist but because they both belong to different schools of thought or his one and your zero are not a perfect fit. Etc. Mail me if u wanna hear more.

2. "Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that is not meant to be" 

(this is another Mumbo -Jumbo... its just like saying "don't get attracted to jerks"... attraction is not a choice. you don't just DECIDE to be attracted to someone...its an innate involuntary action brought about by the amount of chemistry one is able to build over first to subsequent impressions. 

 

In that light... u don't just DECIDE to stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's NOT MEANT to be. How do you know at the onset it's not meant to be... how do you know during trying periods it's not meant to be.... So if you're a dry/ no-fun piece of complaining quick tempered ass and your attitude is threatening your relationship, you won't change? 

You'd conclude it's not meant to be and go on to another man to bore his life to death as well? 

Most times we need only look in the mirror to see the cause of our problems.

3. Slower is better...Never live your life for a man.

(Well that's good advice, and I agree with you. That's how it ought to be...However it's not my fault that The creator disagrees with the both of us ... Genesis 3:16 ... this one goes out to all the "independent women". continue telling yourself what makes you feel better.  It's okay to be independent of a man's finances and all that but that bond is spiritual and there's nothing you and I can say about it. The bible ended that case.  So...next. 

4. If you "feel" like he's stringing you along then he probably is .. don't stay because you think it will get better. (a. Very true... yes leave... b. Coward. you're too weak for competition. Run away anytime u feel threatened, afterall you're the lowest on the food chain abi?.)  put in some fight if u can and bail if u can't. There's another man waiting for you and another girl too for him. 

5. Avoid men who've got a bunch of kids from different women, he didn't marry them. Why would he treat you any better. 

(Well, I guess you can guess your answer from Annie Marcauly, baby mama turned wife to Innocent Idibia a.k.a 2face). 

Shebi he was stringing her along abi? Now she's enjoying her patience. Despite all his cheating and misbehavior. 

6. If a relationship ends because he's not treating you right then heck you cannot be friends. A friend won't mistreat a friend.  

( whatever, perhaps you'd rather be enemies with someone you still have love for... 

Remember it was once a relationship... unless you were never friends before... why would he be cruel to you. try to find out where you went wrong so at least you don't repeat it in your next relationship or you can remain a bitter person. your choice.

7. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 

(So would he when you don't tell him. Have your secrets but don't let them drown you). 

8. Don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are even if he has a better education and job. 

(in that case he doesn't need you to make him feel he's better than you... he is...at least for now... and he knows it. focus on your hustle and keep your pride in your pocket. No matter what you think of yourself...at some point in life someone must lord over you. you're always answerable to someone...don't hastily forget genesis 3:16

Bottom-line, Don't lose in your Angle... but if you do....don't be a sore loser. pick up your pieces...patch it up and learn...then proceed. 

Don't sit and tell yourself you're a victim of this world's Bad boy Syndrome and try to make others drown in your ideology. It's not their fault someone else beat you at your own game.

i wonder what you will do when you get to understand what Isiah 4:1 actually means...maybe then you will learn to stand and fight rather than nag and complain.

However, Guys... You can see what your Games are causing. Slow down. at least till Isiah 4:1 starts happening full time. lol

And i"ll talk to you again soon,
....... Your Friend

.....LEONHART

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ONE NIGHT STANDS

As the title suggests, I haven’t indulged in it (straight face) but I do know people, from both genders, who have, and it seems that a One-Night-Stand isn't as immoral or hurtful as most people perceive it. Here, from my limited understanding of this subject, I am trying to present the advantages that a One-Night-Stand is most likely to offer. AND this is from a non-religious standpoint so take note before you spit fire. Your comments, no matter how critical, are most welcome.

One-Night-Stands When You Cannot Handle Emotional Bonding at the Moment

For all those who have been through break-ups, heartbreaks and the heartache that follows would understand that there are phases in our lives when we don’t want to get emotionally involved. 

During such circumstances, the need of being physically connected to another human being, the craving to feel that raw bedroom passion still surfaces. In such a scenario, what possibilities do you have? Do you tell your hormones and your brain to mind themselves and just shut-up? Do you leave yourself frustrated which is bound to happen since you are denying yourself something that your mind and body yearn for? The solution to this seems like a One-Night-Stand. Since the groundwork and principles for it are already set, it ensures that you wouldn’t need to carry an emotional baggage. Since it is mutual, it is “expected” that your partner too is seeking something similar. So, if two, like-minded (Adult) souls gets connected, though for just a night, doesn’t seem like they are committing a crime.

One-Night-Stands When You are Invited to One

At least among the metros of our nation, women are equally sexually-aggressive. So, there is every chance that you might be asked to a One-Night-Stand. Here, some naysayers might say that the invitation itself could be morally flawed. The lady in question might be married, engaged or committed to somebody else. However, I would like to pose a question here? Unless the person with whom she is involved with is somebody known or close to you, do you really want to decode what has forced the lady to seek a One-Night-Stand outside her relationship? Since she is the one who has set things in motion and her man isn't someone with whom you share friendly or family relations, does the moral compass really point towards you? In my skewed opinion, it doesn’t. You have something to gain from this proposed, night of pleasure and you didn’t precipitate the situation, so the guilt should dilute itself away.

One-Night-Stands When Your Self-Esteem, Confidence Needs a Boost

Men are equally prone to having phases of low self-esteem and unexplained, depressive tendencies as women. The fact that men also suffer from hormonal mood swings has been established by medical researchers. Something similar could be a situation where you are struggling to uphold your self-confidence(ego)—the inherent feeling of cheerfulness has just deserted you. The absence of a girlfriend has further alienated you from the comforting support of a companion and the emotional highs of being sexually active.

Indulging in a One-Night-Stand seems to offer an instant solution to this. Some of the more suave or prudish men might take objection to it but most men like me would agree that a good performance in the bedroom and seeing that unmistakable look of absolute pleasure on a lady’s face tends to pump the male ego without any parallels. 

Like I said before, a One-Night-Stand is mutual and if you are able to solve your confidence issues from it and offer a night of pleasure to another human being, where is the shame in it? It has been medically established that sex is the strongest of natural antidotes for depression, anxiety, bodily pains and various illnesses. Here, having a One-Night-Stand almost equals self-therapy! 

And i'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend

LEONHART