Wednesday, October 9, 2013


Am going to write this just to have fun... so if it stirs anger of hate or rash comments, then maybe i can call it an article of truth.. (because the truth is always bitter).
We often make mistakes of saying "if he loves me... he'll accept me the way I am".

They oft' forget that maybe, just maybe..the "way you are" isn't the right way you should be. Perhaps a little adjustment or change here and there. 
You wear make-up because you know u need to brush up on what is already available even though God in his infinite wisdom created you without them. 

Why do I say this... I will explain.

It is true, not all relationships are meant to be. Some are meant to lead to marriage. Some are for experience, some just to soothe a lonely spirit or for companionship, Some for Sex. Some last just a long distance and crash along the way when you discover you can do better... etc let's not broaden this comment more than it will be. 

Now, a man is a complex personality. But before I describe him I will say something about women. 

God created woman, we all accept that. as both helper and companion. And a woman depends on man for almost everything including her feelings. 

However some women who believe they are independent of men... still go ahead to date men and string them along only for material and sexual gratification and when I say "men" I mean the plural form i.e they don't keep one. These same women,when they find a man who they feel meets their qualifications... begin to grumble when they discover the man was "just passing by" if you know what I mean. 

Perhaps the man can see beyond their new pretend behavior of content. Why are they trying to change from their former slutty ways when they meet an Alpha Male....Why don't they stay there and wait for the man to "Love them as they are". 

Adjustments are necessary in new situations. 

A man is a polygamous entity in nature... hate it or love it. Finding and keeping one exclusively is not entirely impossible but requires a bit of factors working in your favor. 
1. Love (obviously the greatest but weak on it own)
2. Upbringing (way and manner he was trained )
3. Religion (how close to God he is)
4. Environment (Where he finds himself or how exposed he is).
5. Mindset/Conscience (How he sees women)
6. You (your effort as a woman).

Let me stop there for now but notice that YOU "the woman" are only number six (6) on the list. And not 1, 2 or 3. Not even top 5

When looking for  a serious relationship many things must be put in check. 
If you know you're a weakling that cannot stand the heat of competition or fight for their man as some women would do in a heartbeat then you should be ready for a long life of search, misery, heartbreak and perhaps when it all ends...settling with someone you would only manage or lie to yourself that u love because you're tired of the wait. (you'll end up banging that your neighbors hot husband that screams and yells at her like a dog still....yes because HE is THE MAN...and not your docile remote controlled toy you call husband). 

You meet a bunch of Nice guys that are ready to lie on the ground for you to step on them and pass but you want that "bad boy" that all the wizened up cats and vixens use to keep their libido's sated (satisfied) . Why? Because you want to be able to stand proud and say...that's my man.  

And you think you'll keep him by doing his laundry and fucking him. (just like a million other girls will also do if given the chance). And u believe when you do those things for him it makes you special... you even remind him how you do chores for him like it's a very special thing? (don't do it now...someone else will...gladly..with "Jara" like my people say).

Before you meet a man for a new relationship, remember that there are ticks and lice (old flames and stubborn habits). 
You.... that is his new ringworm... in your bid for exclusive attention you forget that he has to treat his other afflictions (which of course he won't admit to having).... While you are around ensure you use a triple action drug while washing his head so it will kill off both known and unknown.
What am I saying... don't assume you have come to stay and get comfortable. Remember that Old flames not well quenched can rekindle at the blow of air. And those old flames are not happy that someone is eating where they tilled and toiled. They would try to accommodate the knowledge of your existence but that don't mean they're not waiting (if not plotting) for u to fail as they did...and take advantage of the Window. (time b/w breakup and getting a new love).

Now I must correct some misconceptions in words women use: (Note that they are mostly true...but in this case... I am going to use my responses as those exceptions to every rule)

1.  If a man wants you nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't nothing can make him stay. 
(sounds good to those suffering or recovering from heartache/heartbreak... often used by psychologists to make one feel better.)
Even if a man truly loves you, there's a lot that can keep him away no matter how hard he fights. Incompatible lovers tend to go downstream not because the love failed to exist but because they both belong to different schools of thought or his one and your zero are not a perfect fit. Etc. Mail me if u wanna hear more.

2. "Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that is not meant to be" 
(this is another Mumbo -Jumbo... its just like saying "don't get attracted to jerks"... attraction is not a choice. you don't just DECIDE to be attracted to someone...its an innate involuntary action brought about by the amount of chemistry one is able to build over first to subsequent impressions. 
In that light... u don't just DECIDE to stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's NOT MEANT to be. How do you know at the onset it's not meant to be... how do you know during trying periods it's not meant to be.... So if you're a dry/ no-fun piece of complaining quick tempered ass and your attitude is threatening your relationship, you won't change? 
You'd conclude it's not meant to be and go on to another man to bore his life to death as well? 
Most times we need only look in the mirror to see the cause of our problems.

3. Slower is better...Never live your life for a man.
(Well that's good advice, and I agree with you. That's how it ought to be...However it's not my fault that The creator disagrees with the both of us ... Genesis 3:16 ... this one goes out to all the "independent women". continue telling yourself what makes you feel better.  It's okay to be independent of a man's finances and all that but that bond is spiritual and there's nothing you and I can say about it. The bible ended that case. 

4. If you "feel" like he's stringing you along then he probably is .. don't stay because you think it will get better. (a. Very true... yes leave... b. Coward. you're too weak for competition. Run away anytime u feel threatened, afterall you're the lowest on the food chain abi?.)  put in some fight if u can and bail if u can't. There's another man waiting for you and another girl too for him. 

5. Avoid men who've got a bunch of kids from different women, he didn't marry them. Why would he treat you any better. 
(Well, I guess you can guess your answer from Annie Marcauly, baby mama turned wife to Innocent Idibia a.k.a 2face). 
Shebi he was stringing her along abi? Now she's enjoying her patience. Despite all his cheating and misbehavior. 

6. If a relationship ends because he's not treating you right then heck you cannot be friends. A friend won't mistreat a friend.  
( whatever, perhaps you'd rather be enemies with someone you still have love for... 
Remember it was once a relationship... unless you were never friends before... why would he be cruel to you. try to find out where you went wrong so at least you don't repeat it in your next relationship or you can remain a bitter person. your choice.

7. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 
(So would he when you don't tell him. Have your secrets but don't let them drown you). 

8. Don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are even if he has a better education and job. 
(in that case he doesn't need you to make him feel he's better than you... he least for now... and he knows it. focus on your hustle and keep your pride in your pocket. No matter what you think of some point in life someone must lord over you. you're always answerable to someone...don't hastily forget genesis 3:16

Bottom-line, Don't lose in your Angle... but if you do....don't be a sore loser. pick up your pieces...patch it up and learn...then proceed. 
Don't sit and tell yourself you're a victim of this world's Bad boy Syndrome and try to make others drown in your ideology. It's not their fault someone else beat you at your own game.
i wonder what you will do when you get to understand what Isiah 4:1 actually means...maybe then you will learn to stand and fight rather than nag and complain.

However, Guys... You can see what your Games are causing. Slow down. at least till Isiah 4:1 starts happening full time. lol

And i"ll talk to you again soon,
....... Your Friend


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Monday, October 7, 2013


This is a piece from a woman, she wanted to give advice to all the women she could reach and am supposed to upload it verbatim (as is) so here goes....

“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.” “Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.” “Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.” “If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think ‘it will get better.’ You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.” “Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?” “Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.” “You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.” “He is a man; nothing more, nothing less.” “Never let a man define who you are.” “Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.” “A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.” “All men are NOT dogs.” “You should not be the one doing all the bending–compromise is a two-way street.” “If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t ‘be friends.’ A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.” “The only person you can control in a relationship is you.” “Always have your own set of friends separate from his” “Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.” “Don’t ever make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or a better job.” “Do not make him into a quasi-god.” "The only man that's exceptional to this write-up is the one who puts a ring on your finger" Hi gorgeous, you are pretty. Pretty as your name. You know it, clap your hands. This is a toast to you, for the man who has you, and the losers who lost you. Lucky are the dudes who are going to meet you.

And i'll talk to y'all again soon (personally)
               Your Friend 
         Chrisking Leonhart